Cry Baby

[tears_of_ashes]

I have been advised to post my message in here, so here is a copy of my message posted in the wrong forum to the right forum here...

Lately I've been going through a very wierd stage...I've got a good life, I'm on a high course at a college and I have a close group of friends, but I've really had the urge to cry (although I never have) And it's affecting me because I've been close to tears many of times but never have cried and I don't know what's caused it.....I get a feeling of solitude although I have many people to support me! I've tried incent sticks which helped me a lot, I've spoken to friends and now I'm looking for a more spiritual route of healing.....can anyone suggest anything? I will try ANYTHING! (This is not the first time that this has happened.)

[smckim]

:whatgives I think that sometimes, there is just so much crap going on in the news all over the world, that it all adds up and causes us to feel very blue. With so much negativity it's hard not to be affected by it sooner or later. We think were not so affected by it, but it builds up inside, and sometimes a good cry is what we need to cleanse those feelings, just let it out, then breath in good positive energy! Sending you some right now!! Blessed Be!!

[Lunacie]

It may be as simple as feeling stressed or depressed. Some people find anti-depressant meds to be helpful.

Or it may be that you're picking up something empathically. You may be picking up something from someone in one of your classes, or someone in your dorm or apartment (if you live in one), or maybe even residual energy clinging to a place or an object. I'd suggest carrying a small notebook and writing down...
. what time it is when you start feeling sad or weepy
. where you are when you start feeling that way
. who the other people are that are near you

You may see a pattern that will help you figure it out. And there are lots of good threads here on MW about creating an energy shield that will help you deflect whatever is impinging on your emotions. What works even better for me is being aware (like with the notebook) and then changing the energy to something more positive and returning it to the person. Welcome to the Empathic Bunker my dear.

[tears_of_ashes]

. what time it is when you start feeling sad or weepy
. where you are when you start feeling that way
. who the other people are that are near you

I occurs at any given moment it's completely random.
It coccurs most though when I'm walking through the city (which is what made me think that it could be empathy rather than depression)
I can be with my best mates or out clubbing when I get the teary urge!

[Lunacie]

Okay, are you saying that it happens both when you're with your mates and when you're by yourself?

[SilverMaiden]

Go ahead and have a good cry. See if you can figure out if it's your feelings, if it's the feelings of others you're not releasing or a combination of both.

Once or twice a year I watch tear jerker movies and just have a good cry.

[Pesha]

As I posted before, you may be blossoming into empathy. Do have a good cry and then relax and start to lok at things with a different eye. Start to mentally or in a note book record when these feelings arer comeing, with who, or are you alone. Do it for about a week to start and you may get the pattern of the situation. And definitly hang out here with us and we will all work together to help you if we can.

BB
DS.

[LostSheep]

Lately I've been going through a very wierd stage...I've got a good life, I'm on a high course at a college and I have a close group of friends, but I've really had the urge to cry (although I never have) And it's affecting me because I've been close to tears many of times but never have cried and I don't know what's caused it.....I get a feeling of solitude although I have many people to support me!

This is what I've been noticing too; I was mystified by these mood swings, how I could be okay one moment, then feeling an overhwelming urge to cry welling up inside me, and I feel kind of isolated in crowds. I think what that is is probably that I'm subconsciously putting up a sheild to stop myself getting overwhelmed. Now that I'm aware of it I don't get quite so freaked out by it, I think maybe if you can put a name to what you're feeling it's a start to being able to handle it.

take care. :)

[tears_of_ashes]

I had a good cry and then I had the urge to draw (wired as it sounds). So I started to draw what my mind & hand wanted to draw...I ended up drawing a landscape, a beatuiful one where there was a waterfall with a cave and a unicorn drinking on the edge, but I did draw a hand doing the "Come here" gesture with the finger sticking out of a cave-like bit behind the waterfall. This may mean nothing what so ever but does this help anyone understand what's happening to me?

[Lunacie]

Just a couple of quick thoughts. Water is considered to be a healing element. The horn of a unicorn is also claimed to have healing properties. The hand beckoning you into the cave might be your subconscious telling you to look deeper. And a lot of empaths become healers in one form or another. So it could be that your subconscious is asking you to look into your own natural gifts and see what you can do with them.

I'd suggest doing some meditation and asking your inner spirit to make things clearer for you.

[tears_of_ashes]

I'd suggest doing some meditation and asking your inner spirit to make things clearer for you.

I'll try that and thank you. I'll post back after I have done that and then you could help me move onto the next step as this is something I feel I can not do on my own.

[Lunacie]

I hope the meditation helps. I'm fortunatel to have had a couple of real-life teachers/mentors to help me learn and grow spiritually and metaphysically. And I've been able to apply that learning and growth to my life as an empath. I've also learned some things from my fellow Bunker-ites here at MW. Only fair that I should pass it on to others, eh?

I happened to mention at my A.D.D. support group meeting the other night how difficult it can be to cope with empathy and A.D.D. at the same time. One of the others remarked how I would make a good detective. I laughed and said, "Yeah, like Monk with his O.C.D.?" But I do like to ask odd questions and make mental connections and deductions. And my favorite reading material is books about 'normal people' who solve crimes and mysteries. :lol:

Enough about me, yes please let us know how it goes with the meditation and any efforts you make to create a shield.