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siamesegoth2
November 12th, 2005, 08:31 PM
I'm due to go to the hospital sunday afternoon, and on monday, not sure when, ill be having surgery on my foot.


This is going to involve pins, and a bone graft , to correct a congenital deformity, thats made the bone in my feet seperate, and turn inwards to the point where walking or standing for too long becomes very painfull.

An,d in truth, im scared , im boardering on hysterical, and im going to get worse, i suffer panic attacks, and that is not helping. I am terrified of being alone, of needles, and of doctors in general.

I have had this deformity in both feet all my life, and it was dicovred early this year , by a doc who looked shocked when i asked for insteps, and demanded xrays. he found the problem, when in Scotland it was over looked countless times.

Its gpoing to take 3 months to recover, and painfully at that.

I've lived with this disabiltoiy for so long, its become normal for me, the thought of having a semi normal foot, scares me, and once its over they want to do the other foot.

Im litterly sick with fear, its 2 am and i cant sleep. i feel like i want to vomit. im tempted to call off the whole damn thing, but im reminded if i dont do this ill be chair bound inside 5 years.

I've had surgery before, and it wasnt a good experiance. i gave birth to my son, and had a panic attack over the needles.

But this, *shakes head* this is different.

I have this fear that it's going to go wrong, that it will be worse than it already is. That im going to wake up on the table, and they wont notice. or that im going to die because of the anasthetic.

im 27, and im crying like a 2 year old. I dont know if i can be strong...im feeling so lost, and alone its not even funny.

my hubby is here for me, but thats about it, all my family arez back in scotland. ive called them , and they send their love, my uncle is sending healing energy.

And for all that, im feeling as tho im doign this myself.

i dont know what to do with myself right now, and im trying so hard not to have a screaming fit cum panic attack. and im failing misrably.

ravenmyst
November 12th, 2005, 09:22 PM
:hugz: I am sure it will be fine, not sure what needs said though

Zhr Morgana
November 12th, 2005, 09:25 PM
Once your foot is fixed up, I'm sure it will be a hard thing to get used to...please remember that it will get better and we're all here for ya :hugz:

Lorelei of the Mists
November 12th, 2005, 09:38 PM
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Willow Rosette
November 12th, 2005, 10:09 PM
Now when you are scared the most is the best time to work on breathing and meditation. Remember in through your nose and out through your mouth. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. In the mean time Im sending calming, soothing, healing energies to you.

Scarlettvixen
November 12th, 2005, 11:02 PM
:hugz:
if you can relax and meditate as visha suggested it may help

onto the fear of needles....... they can put local anaesthetic gel on the back of yr hand/wrist for where the cannula will be inserted. and ask the anaethetist of a patient controlled analgesia, so yr initial pain relief is given via the drip rather than as a needle into the muscle.... they should then be able to transition you from the drip onto oral analgesia.

it is hard when you are terrified of hospitals, but you can get through it. tell them tomorrow u want a sedative the night before theatre, that should make u calmer.

do u have any chamomile or peppermint tea? try those now and get yr partner to give u a back rub and see if u can get off to sleep hun

Heart of Isis
November 12th, 2005, 11:28 PM
Siamesegoth,

Please read Lorilei of the Mists post to you again. Print it out if you have to. I think she is spot on in what she said. (I was picking the same thing she was). If I were you I would pay particular attention to what she said about the way to look at it. Also I would recommend following her suggestion about letting the doctors and nurses know how frightened you are.
The only thing I would like to add is that in telling the doctors and nurses how frightened you are is to specificly ask them or even one of them for a bit of extra TLC to help you pull yourself through. It's very ok to ask for a bit extra. It's also ok to cry if you need to.
Also think about this, I know that most of your family is back in Scotland, but you are fortunate to have your husband who is there for you and all. Some folks are less fortunate. For instance, if it were me right now I have nobody who is there for me. (something I hope to solve soon someday).

So try to look at it differently as hard as that may be to do for you. I get the strong sense that your going to be totally ok and before you know it it will be a distant memory and you will be all fixed up and moving forward.

Heart of Isis

Teresa
November 13th, 2005, 12:50 AM
Dressing a candle for You and sending calming soothing energies! :hugz:

WtchyChick13
November 13th, 2005, 01:36 AM
Calming energie and quick healing to you! :hugz:

TaysatWesir
November 13th, 2005, 02:46 AM
calming and healing energy sent :hugz:

aluokaloo
November 13th, 2005, 10:45 PM
I am sure you will be ok, don't be ashamed to be scared, think of it as a new beginning for you. Is there someone you are comfortable with that you can takje, i know that for me its always less scary to know that someone is there for the before and after.

HorseCrow
November 14th, 2005, 05:49 AM
:hugz:

Mariposa De La Luna
November 14th, 2005, 09:18 AM
Energy sent and wishes for a quick recovery!

Aleannah
November 14th, 2005, 11:55 AM
calming and healing energy sent :hugz: