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~Elise~
July 30th, 2006, 11:19 AM
Definition: Living person who "drains" others emotionally either empathically (draining the auric life force) or metaphorically (someone who takes emotionally without giving anything back; a "user").

Psychic vampires feed off their victim's energy, or prana (the Hindu name for energy or life force), in the same way that mythical vampires drink human blood to feed themselves. Not all psychic vampires are doing this consciously though. People who are emotionally needy or manipulate others to get their own way by making them feeling guilty are unconscious vampires. Spending time with a particular person can leave you feeling drained physically and emotionally. This is an indication of psychic vampirism. Some people consciously take other's energy by tapping into their victim's aura and draining the energy that way. People who are particularly sensitive or vulnerable are more likely to be a target for psychic vampires. Fear leaves people open to this form of attack.
Let's face it--we've probably all fallen prey to a psychic vampire, possibly without even knowing it. It may have been a chance encounter with an energy predator that left us temporarily exhausted, or possibly along-term vampire interaction with serious wear-and-tear effects on the mind and body.

Psychic vampirism is alive and flourishing in the world today. As consumers of energy rather than blood, vampires of the psychic kind exist in many guises but with one common trait--their own inadequate energy system compels them to tap into and feed upon the energies of unsuspecting host victims. The immediate results of such a one-on-one vampire encounter are anew but temporary surge of energy for the psychic vampire and a serious loss of mental and physical energy for the unsuspecting prey. If you suddenly feel emotionally or mentally depleted, you may be under attack by a psychic vampire. The unfortunate effects of prolonged energy loss are damage to the energy system itself and in some instances, serious illness.

As consumers of energy rather than blood, psychic vampires, like their folklore counterparts, can be men or women, young or old. They can be tween, teens, or adults. They can be professionals in business suits, wealthy dot. comers, dapper CEOs, ultra-groovy rock stars, or construction workers in hard hats. They can be a business associate, next door neighbor, or even family member.

This is from New Worlds, Issue NW023 by Joe Slate:

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Psychic vampirism is alive and flourishing in the world today. It exacts a heavy toll-it demands life-force energy and in some instances, it literally destroys lives. At a personal level, it wastes our energies, dampens the immune system, and undermines the body’s natural defenses against illness. At a global level, it can literally drain the earth of its survival resources and interrupt its harmony and balance. It follows that finding ways of preventing psychic vampirism, or successfully counteracting it, must be among our top priorities. There are several forms of psychic vampirism, each of which demands a host victim.

In the one-on-one vampire encounter, the psychic vampire taps into the energy system of a selected host victim for the express purpose of extracting energy. Typical one-on-one psychic vampires are not agents of evil bent on the destruction of their victims. Furthermore, they possess none of the supernatural powers attributed to folklore vampires. They function instead from a position of profound weakness. Deficient in energy, and with their own energy system usually impaired, they seek other energy options-the energy system of a host victim.

Almost everyone has experienced the common vampire interaction that left them both mentally and physically fatigued. Unfortunately, the psychic vampire’s energy system is only temporarily replenished, thus requiring repeated attacks. For the host victim of recurring attacks, the consequences can be extremely harmful.

In the group setting, psychic vampirisrn can involve multiple vampires and victims. It can occur within groups and between groups, with power, wealth, and control being among its major goals. Highly competitive groups whose goal is to subdue or defeat the opposition, along with heated political campaigns, seem particularly vulnerable to group psychic vampirism. In its most dangerous form, it can include the organized activities of predator gangs, criminal groups, and drug trafficking networks.

Even major corporations have been known to stoop to psychic vampirism. Any organization that exploits human beings has clear fingerprints of psychic vampirism. Big Tobacco with its long history of predatory marketing practices, some of which targeted children. Enron Corporation’s vampirization of its beleaguered employees are examples of corporate psychic vampirism on an alarming scale.

The globe itself is vulnerable to psychic vampirism that recklessly exhausts its natural resources, pollutes its environment, threatens its species, and erodes its potential for progress. Psychic vampirism’s consequences can span centuries. It can affect everyone and in some instances, it literally puts the future of the planet at risk.


An internal form of vampirism, parasitic vampires are twice the victim-they are both vampire and host. Examples are phobias, obsessions, compulsions, and an array of self-defeating stress reactions-each of which is like a blood-sucking vampire with a demonic appetite. The more they devour, the more they demand. By attacking from the inside, they drain their host of essential energy, and eventually grid down the energy system itself.
Some warning signs that may make you aware that you are being preyed on in this way are: tiredness, fatigue, depression, headaches, nausea, dizziness, feeling drained, anxiety, panic attacks and nightmares. If the attacks continue, then the victim can become very ill, both physically and psychologically. Some people believe that the practice of psychic vampirism can make you live for ever.

Understand, psychic vampires are typically not mean, cruel people. Oftentimes, they are totally unaware of their impact on others. Initially, they are quite charming and attractive. They draw others in with their cunning and guile. Like vampires displayed on Hollywood's silver screen, psychic vampires avoid looking at themselves in the mirror. This avoidance of mirrors signifies a psychological tendency to avoid the self. The psychic vampire avoids, at all costs, self-examination. As you know, vampires literally live in the dark. Similarly, psychic vampires refuse to become enlightened by the light of knowledge. They lurk in darkness, under cover and unaware of how they negatively influence and drain other peoples' emotional energy.

Having avoided self-reflection, these individuals naturally deny responsibility for how they affect others and how they attempt to live off the energy of others. For instance, a typical interaction with a psychic vampire might appear like this:
The PV usually begins a conversation with a complaint of some sort. If the person they're talking with chooses to respond with a solution, optimistic comment or some other positive response, the PV will literally live off that person's positive energy. Rather than do this for him/herself, the PV relies on other people to provide him/her with this type of energy. As the word "vampire" conveys, the PV saps the energy of others, which is why the other person ends up feeling emotionally drained.

It is not unusual for a person who is ill or feeling inadequate emotionally to draw upon or deplete energized individuals of their life force. These "suckers" are not bad people, most of them are not aware on a conscious level that they are doing what they are doing. Still, their unknowing actions can play havoc with anyone who leaves an energetic opening for this type of thievery. It is important for us to be aware that we may be susceptible to having our energies stolen from us and learn ways to protect ourselves. The harm in a psychic attack is that there is no fair exchange of energy and therefore one feels depleted while the other becomes energized.

The hard part in dealing with these type people is that initially they do implant themselves into your lives as friends. Then through a slow process the friendship is replaced by a constant draining on you. Being that we know that some people take longer than others to get through their issues we continue to try to help. What I have discovered in them is that they do not really want the help to improve their lives. They want to release the energy to someone else so they can continue on their way. They are in essence vampires of your energy and need to be removed from your life.

Do not let their issues become your issues. Refuse to accept or absorb their issues as your own. Become aware of what individuals deplete your energy and limit your contact with them. Using the Visualization Techniques that you’ve already been learning in this course- Build walls of protection or create a bubble of light surrounding your auric field.
The harm in a psychic attack is that there is no fair exchange of energy and therefore one feels depleted while the other becomes energized.

Symbiotics

This is another form of psychic vampire with the exception that these creatures survive on the draining of negative energy alone. As an example, usually they will seek out and draw strength from sickness in any human they encounter.

In draining the negative energy a victim invariably feels better and is possibly even healthier. The difference between the two forms is that symbiotics drain negative energy with intent but at the same time do not usually wish to harm their victim.

However psychic vampires drain any energy they can, sometimes harming the victim.
Please note though, some psychic vampires and symbiotics are not evil! They can be good and bad just like you and me.

Traits of A Psychic Vampire

• experiences feelings of abandonment or rejection
• needs constant reassurance
• never feels satisfied
• seeks nurturing
• low energy - fatigued

Symptoms Of Psychic Attack

• leaky or diminishing aura
• dizziness
• loss of energy
• muscle tension
• mental confusion
• headaches
• chronic fatigue
• sleep disturbances
• irritability
• depressed mood
• physical illness

Among healers the sharing of energy is referred to as cording. This cord represents life support tubing energetically connecting two individuals together. Babies are born with a cord attaching them to their mothers, this is natural. But there comes a time for a mother to Cut the Apron Strings allowing her child to go out into the world on its own. This is appropriate. If the mother fails to break the cord, the child will eventually attempt to do it. This too is appropriate.

Actually if the energy sharing was done equally it would be silly to have the cord in place at all. It is possible to be in a relationship without cording one another, in fact it is preferable. Couples that share one life source ordinarily create a relationship in which one individual becomes weaker, the other stronger. The weakened person feels collapsed because of giving away his/her life source. The stronger person feels great for a time, but his/her appetite may very well increase, craving more and more of the shared energy.

There are different types of situations we face in life that are difficult. Ending relationships ranks pretty high up in the "tough stuff" category. It doesn't matter if you were the person who walked away or if someone else left you, a loss is felt either way. It is especially painful if a relationship ends without closure. Unfortunately, often times when people "breakup" what they don't realize is that they may very well still have cords attached. The intact cord keeps an open channel for continuous feeding on each others emotions and anxieties.

One way to cut the cord, so to speak is to do a visualization similar to this one that I teach:

Go into a meditative state.

See your body.

See all the cords extending from your etheric body. Some of those cords you will want to keep, be they relationships with your kids, SO, spouse, family, parents, friends, etc.
Some of those you are going to want to sever; ex-bfs, ex-husbands, friends and family that are no longer in your life, co-workers from jobs that you don't even work at anymore.

See those cords attaching into your body with a bungee-cord type of hook/attachment.

Pick one cord at a time...pull that cord towards you to give you a bit of slack to be be able to unhook it from your body without tearing it out.

Cut the end of the cord that was attached to you...sometimes just a blade or ax won't do it. Sometimes that hook will be as big as an anchor. KNOW that you will have whatever tool available to you that will cut the end off that cord so it can not reattach itself to you.

DO NOT ATTEMPT TO CUT THE OTHER PERSON'S END. You only need to worry about your end. Without the hook on it, it can not reattach itself to you.

Now, that said...an experienced psyvamp can reattach that cord once they realize they are not attached to you any longer. So you may need to do this several time over the course of a couple of months.

I've been known to call on Archangel Michael to cut one cord with his flaming sword. I just could not get it done on my own. Needless to say, that one never came back.


Another way of subtle protection upon which you will not have to concentrate is by using herb pouches, or gem stones that you carry with you or wear in the form of a necklace etc. These can be quite good, but do remember to take them off and cleanse them every so often as they will suck in the negativity etc and you may find it will begin to affect you mentally and physically.

Now -- what is the difference between a psychic vampire and a psychic attack? Here is an excerpt of an article written by Christopher Penczak:

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Psychic Attacks
Psychic attacks come in many forms. The simplest is an everyday experience. Someone says something bad about you, makes a judgment, calls you a name, yells or curses at you. The person is directing his or her energy in a harmful way toward you. If you are not strong enough in self-esteem and personal power, these little attacks take their toll.
Do not become paranoid with this information. Do not go running around accusing everyone who does not agree with you of a psychic attack. Such negativity is not meant as an attack. It is an unfortunate by-product of how our society conducts itself. This is a simple, subtle way harmful energy is directed. We all do it at times. Most often, we do it to ourselves. We judge ourselves as not worthy, not attractive, not lovable, and these images become thought forms, packets of energy, filled with a poor self-image. When people experience an "attack," they usually are experiencing and clearing these thought forms. Be aware and responsible of your own thoughts, directed towards yourself and others.
Other thought forms and astral entities have a life of their own. You might feel a malevolent presence or voice. These are the reported demons and devils plaguing mystics. They take the form of your greatest fears. Their goal is your fear, your attention, your time and energy. They draw energy from you to feed their existence. Ignoring them is an easy way to break their hold. Laughter is even better. If you don't take them seriously, they will lose power.
The last kind of psychic attack is the most rare, coming from another practitioner of the magickal arts. These attacks come as curses, wishing bad luck, nightmares and psychic or mental pain. Usually, the person knows you and will have some vendetta against you. My mother's godmother practiced folk magick in her Italian community and broke curses all the time. Belief and giving into the curse is the worst thing you can do. The more you feel you are cursed, the more the universe responds. No one can curse you unless you let him or her.


Psychic Defenses
All psychic defenses are based in building your own self-esteem, personal power and confidence. Some contain more physical acts, but ultimately it is your will empowering those acts.
To purify a space and prevent unwanted, harmful energy from entering, burn purifying herbs. Frankincense and myrrh are a favorite of both witches and the Catholic Church. Native Americans use sage, cedar and sweetgrass. Southern American cultures burn copal. You can also use lavender or cinnamon. These substances naturally clear a space. Salt absorbs harmful energy. Iron grounds the same energy. Horseshoes were pointed down and hung over doors for this purpose. Iron nails are placed in house frames for the same reason. Potions and oils made of these substances are worn for protection.
(Let’s see….that would be the smudging lesson we’ve just covered)
Magickal symbols of protection can be worn or drawn. Pentacles, crosses, the Star of David and the Eye of Horus are strong protection symbols, and you can usually find jewelry made with these symbols. Wear this jewelry with the intent of protection. A banishing pentagram, a star drawn starting in the lower left corner, dissolves harmful thought forms and removes unwanted spirits. Repeat it as many times as necessary.
(We’ll get to this one very soon)
During meditation, start by visualizing a shield of clear crystal around your entire body, about three feet away. State "This protection shield protects me from all harm and reflects love back on the source of the harm." Never send energy back to do harm; it will again return to trouble you. Even if one attacks you first, you are not justified to curse back. By sending love, you neutralize the harm. Wishing good things on your enemies can be the key to defeating them. They will be so happy with what they have that they stop bothering you. Bless your harm away, and more blessings will return to you. Similar protection shield visualizations can be used around your home, car, loved ones and pets.
(Hmmm…this would be the Grounding, centering and shielding lessons we’ve been doing all along…see--told you all this built on each lesson, so far)
Sometimes binding spells are necessary. Write the name of the person meaning you harm on a piece of paper. Put it in a bottle, bound with black thread. Fill the bottle with sea salt, protection herbs, iron filings and things like John the Conqueror root. Seal the bottle and ask that this person harm you no longer. As long as you do not open it, the binding will last. You can put the bottle in your freezer or bury it in the backyard.
As a last resort, call upon your guardian spirits. Call on your guardian angel, your spirit guides or the Goddess and God. A student of mine protected himself by asking for help from Mother Earth and drawing Her energy up and directing it to the malevolent spirit. Be creative when protecting.
As you claim your power and grow in your magickal abilities, you will move in harmony with the universe and attract less attention from such darker entities. Others wishing you harm will effortlessly roll off you because you know your place in the cosmic dance of life. Nothing can make you skip a beat of your dance.
This is from sacred-texts, an article by Zhahai Stewart:
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What to do if you think you are being attacked.

1 - Question if it is really either imagination, or coming from within yourself. Something may be trying to get your attention, but it may not be external, and by focusing on an external "enemy" you may be missing the point.

2 - Check to see if you are yourself inadvertently sending something out; maybe someone is just reflecting some energy back! Nothing is gained if you get into adversarial mode in that case. Many people have been taught that reflecting is the proper response.

3 - Put up a grounding shield. Ground it out, send it to the Mother who can recycle the energy. Grounding is usually taught to every student. If you don't feel you can be a "conduit" safely, ground it by reflecting it downward to the Earth; that is a big target and easy to hit. By grounding it out, you are protecting yourself, yet not being caught up in it.

What not to do.

1 - Figure out who is sending it and counter attack. You might be wrong, and may be starting a feud. You might be right, but they may not realize that they are "sending" so you may start a feud or cause unnecessary harm. Even if you are right, you are escalating a feud, of which we have too many.
This is commonly discussed as a bad idea.

2 - Put up a reflective shield which will return the energy to the sender.This is commonly discussed as a good idea, but we disagree. We think this is unwise. For one thing, it is not necessary; if you can make an accurate return reflection, you can certainly reflect it to Earth instead (where it can be recycled). There is no reason you should not be able to ground out more energy than you can accurately reflect to the sender, if viewed properly.

For another, your accuracy in returning it may be less than perfect. You might hit close but not close enough; if you can't reflect it to earth, you are going to have trouble reflecting it to an unknown person.

Sometimes this is discussed as if once you return it, the sender will just stop; because they will awaken to what they are doing, or because the returning energy will be too much to handle. The thing which is seldom mentioned is that if the sender (assuming there is one) was consciously attacking, they will likely already be prepared with their own mirrors, etc.
Great, if we put near perfect mirrors at each end and pump in energy, maybe we can get a psychic laser effect; guess who is just on the other side of the mirrors to catch the intensified leak thru?

If they weren't aware of sending, they will probably just assume they are being attacked and take countermeasures. If they follow the 3 steps above, fine, nothing is damaged. But many of them will immediately think they have to put up a defensive mirror, or maybe worse (see below; they may decide to teach you a lesson for attacking them). Few people naturally respond to perceived attacks positively (especially if they are in such a bad mood already as to be sending without even realizing it).

Another serious concern is getting drawn into a unacknowledged feud by your own weaknesses. It is often agreed that one should reflect back exactly what is received, without adding anything of one's own. But the same people who advocate that may use terms implying "returning it with enthusiasm". There appears to be an easily tapped source of self-righteousness in most people feeling attacked, and it is _very hard_ not to get drawn into imagining, at some level, the satisfying effects of the energy going back to the attacker; that draws one into a "counter-attack" even without realizing it. Grounding it does not.

Watch for yourself when people are discussing "returning to sender"; see if there isn't very often a hidden desire for revenge or retribution lurking there grasping for their "control panel" - and deflecting their normal attempts at staying centered by claiming to do no more than is "justified". Justified is not the question; self knowledge and balance are.

There is another thread which shows up often in discussions like these; the need to "teach the sender a lesson". In some cases, I have even heard thi justified as "protecting the community". This way lies many pitfalls. Did the goddess give you an "agent of threefold return" marshal’s badge, that exempts you from any consequences "because you are just an agent"? That hubris is gonna teach some hard lessons, but the self appointed marshall may be the major recipient. It would be a little bit healthier to just shed the self-righteousness and call it an ego driven feud. "Teaching them a lesson" gets filed under the pitfalls of righteousness, the ways that one's own weaknesses seduce one.

Also consider, what if despite your initial impression, the negative energy is really coming from inside, from part of you? Are you going to be better off "reflecting it back" (maybe with additional conscious or unconscious oomph) or grounding it? "Gee, I returned it but good, and now they have stepped it up; the sender really needs a lesson!". That may be more true than you know, bucko.

Notice that nowhere do we say that one has no "right" to put up a reflective shield; of course one does, and is fully justified. Also, possibly, unwise. There is a distinction between what one has a "right" to do in "self defense", and what is wise to get drawn into. Reflecting it is neither necessary, nor likely to produce positive results, but if _that itself_ is the lesson to be learned, what can I say? Each chooses their own path, and that is as it should be. At least if one has considered the above, one should know what they are stepping into.






Sources:
http://whispy.com/psychic-vampires.htm
http://www.llewellynjournal.com/article/513
http://healing.about.com/cs/energyhe...a_vampires.htm (http://healing.about.com/cs/energyhealing/a/aa_vampires.htm)
http://farshores.org/psyvamp.htm
http://www.widdershins.org/vol5iss2/07.htm
http://www.sacred-texts.com/bos/bos127.htm

~Elise~
July 30th, 2006, 11:26 AM
Think about a psychic vampire that is in your life now...how are you going to be able to counter them now?

Is there a situation that you thought was a psychic attack and now you think it isn't? How are you going to change your attitude towards it?

Brightshores
July 31st, 2006, 04:11 PM
I have a question about these concepts.

Can people who have mental problems that affect the way they relate to others be classified as psychic vampires, or do the "mitigating circumstances" mean that they can't be considered in this way, or worse, that it's somehow excusable for them to behave in a way that would otherwise be a psychic attack?

I refer to problems such as alcoholism or drug abuse, bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, schizophrenia, senility, major depression, etc. etc. etc.

(btw - am working on Lesson 5 - my husband has been ill lately and I haven't had the opportunity to do the full house-cleaning thing yet... sorry for the delay!)

~Elise~
July 31st, 2006, 06:47 PM
I have a question about these concepts.

Can people who have mental problems that affect the way they relate to others be classified as psychic vampires, or do the "mitigating circumstances" mean that they can't be considered in this way, or worse, that it's somehow excusable for them to behave in a way that would otherwise be a psychic attack?

I refer to problems such as alcoholism or drug abuse, bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, schizophrenia, senility, major depression, etc. etc. etc.

(btw - am working on Lesson 5 - my husband has been ill lately and I haven't had the opportunity to do the full house-cleaning thing yet... sorry for the delay!)

No-The problems that you listed do not 'mitigate the circumstance', at least in my opinion. I think it is part of why they are like that.
That said, true mental problems such as retardation, etc do mitigate.... but not the rest--AGAIN, that's my opinion. But--they would more likely be a psy vamp, not instigating an attack. (in most cases)

Healing energy sent for your hubby

Elise

~Elise~
July 31st, 2006, 06:50 PM
Note to whole class:

This Wed I go in for back surgery. In theory--I'll be back home that afternoon, but I'm not sure how much energy I'm going to have to keep close tabs on the class--but will try. If I don't respond for a day or so, don't despair, I will be back.

Elise

moonbride
July 31st, 2006, 06:59 PM
Note to whole class:

This Wed I go in for back surgery. In theory--I'll be back home that afternoon, but I'm not sure how much energy I'm going to have to keep close tabs on the class--but will try. If I don't respond for a day or so, don't despair, I will be back.

Elise

Well I guess I don't have any business speaking for everyone but I'm gonna do it anyway! By all means please take your time and heal... feel better and don't worry about class. I'll be sending you some good positive healing energy and hoping you a speedy recovery. :hugz:

Sobeq
July 31st, 2006, 07:35 PM
Well I guess I don't have any business speaking for everyone but I'm gonna do it anyway! By all means please take your time and heal... feel better and don't worry about class. I'll be sending you some good positive healing energy and hoping you a speedy recovery. :hugz:

I second that!

I'll just leave my answer to this post for whenever you're well enough to get to it.

I have a distinct feeling I may actually be a psychic vampire -- I've realised (in reading that post) that I am indeed very guilty of feeding off of everyone else's happinesses, and I have a very hard time picking myself up as I get down unless I rely on someone else. I've been having an easier time of it as I keep up grounding and shielding... I'm not sure how to go about the homework though since I seem to be the most psychically vampiric person I know, aside from one other.

~Elise~
July 31st, 2006, 07:44 PM
I second that!

I'll just leave my answer to this post for whenever you're well enough to get to it.

I have a distinct feeling I may actually be a psychic vampire -- I've realised (in reading that post) that I am indeed very guilty of feeding off of everyone else's happinesses, and I have a very hard time picking myself up as I get down unless I rely on someone else. I've been having an easier time of it as I keep up grounding and shielding... I'm not sure how to go about the homework though since I seem to be the most psychically vampiric person I know, aside from one other.

You know, you aren't the first person to say that. In my IRL class I have a student who realized that she is, as well.

Shielding harder for you.... also you are going to have to watch your actions. When you find yourself tapping into someone--draw back gracefully...not just yanking yourself away. It is a habit, just like smoking--in fact I just sent someone a PM with just those same words.
Also--think about what 'tape' is playing in your head to cause the unhappiness and you're going to have to 'change that tape'. Not easy, but it is do-able.

Elise

~Elise~
July 31st, 2006, 07:45 PM
Also--post answers over the next couple of days--I will be checking in to get caught up so I'm not starting out behind.

Elise

Sage WindMoon
August 1st, 2006, 07:56 PM
Ok, I know a person in my life who I would consider a psychic vampire. I don't believe it's intentional, but the amount of energy I've had drained from me over the last couple of years is tremendous. Unfortunately, she is a co-worker and I have to work closely with her on a daily basis. She also sits in the cubicle across from me, so we are in line of sight with each other most of the day. Almost every day, she uses me as a sounding board for her dissatisfaction with other co-workers. She also constantly asks me things like "am I doing this right?" or "did I do the right thing? or "is what I'm wearing professional looking?" In other words, she needs a LOT of reassurance about how she does her job, and how she looks. She is also very envious of anyone she thinks is getting more attention than she is, from anybody. So she sends me pages and emails, or calls me on the phone several times a day to vent her frustrations - even long after I go home or before I leave home in the morning. She also asks for my help on virtually every work assignment she gets.

Part of the problem is that I'm pretty empathic, and I want to help her most of the time, but it is SO exhausting. I need to pull myself out of this situation, but I've been caught in it so long (almost 3 years) it's not all that easy.

So I'm going to make an effort to work on this. I had a necklace I used to wear for protection, but it hasn't been cleansed in months. I'll start by cleansing and recharging it for this specific purpose.

Secondly, I'm going to keep working on my shielding - today in a meeting I made a conscious effort to build up my shield and I felt better almost immediately. I need to remember to keep the shield up!

Finally, I may try the "cord cutting" exercise. I'm not sure it will work well with someone I have to work closely with all the time - it seems like this tactic may be better suited for ending relationships.

~Elise~
August 1st, 2006, 09:43 PM
shielding everyday--like you should be doing already would help.
set a ward in your cubicle to block her, as well

I'd also start not answering her questions... I'm sorry, I didn't hear you, I'm busy with my ______... I'm sorry, I can't help at this time-I've got _____ to do myself. You know, whatever you do, I'm sure will be great. It always is.

Don't answer calls after hours... block 'em, ignore 'em whatever.

She will give up....eventually

Elise

Jenne
August 1st, 2006, 10:03 PM
Think about a psychic vampire that is in your life now...how are you going to be able to counter them now?

Is there a situation that you thought was a psychic attack and now you think it isn't? How are you going to change your attitude towards it?

I have a step-mil that I've known for years was a psy-vamp. She's one of these:



Understand, psychic vampires are typically not mean, cruel people. Oftentimes, they are totally unaware of their impact on others. Initially, they are quite charming and attractive. They draw others in with their cunning and guile. Like vampires displayed on Hollywood's silver screen, psychic vampires avoid looking at themselves in the mirror. This avoidance of mirrors signifies a psychological tendency to avoid the self. The psychic vampire avoids, at all costs, self-examination. As you know, vampires literally live in the dark. Similarly, psychic vampires refuse to become enlightened by the light of knowledge. They lurk in darkness, under cover and unaware of how they negatively influence and drain other peoples' emotional energy.

I described her as "sapping my energy" long, long before I even KNEW what a psy-vamp was. She has this way of just sucking it right out of you, so that you need DAYS to recuperate.

I guess the way I dealt with her previously was to reflect it back to her with anger. Lately, however, I've been kinder, and it's worked wonders. She no longer uses me to feed. Instead, she sees me as an ally and not a worthy energy source any more. And all I did was open myself up to what she needed without compromising what I needed in return. In other words, if there was something about being with her that bothered me, in any way, I would immediately remove my presence, my very conscienceness, from her vicinity.

And maybe it was giving myself that strange mental and emotional distance that helped. I like the cord idea, though. I need to try that.

~Elise~
August 2nd, 2006, 05:22 AM
K--last post for a bit from me. Am leaving in about 30 minutes for the hospital.

Elise

~Elise~
August 6th, 2006, 10:19 PM
Posting the next class lesson--but not many have posted the homework from this class.

Elise

Kmartin60
August 6th, 2006, 10:48 PM
I am so sorry! I thought I had posted, just now caught that I hadnt! IT has been real rough couple of weeks...although not as tough as having back surgery! :) Hope it is feeling better bye the way!

From the description I have both happening....A friend I met online fits description, and the symptoms mentioned on 2nd one, fit ME to a T!

I, after long time studing the situation, and the response's, both hers and mine...have started cutting the cords....still managing the site
(That was abandoned, :rant: ) But not letting it get under my skin (Or in my head!) :yayah: And seeing the symptoms, have doubled my shields, wards, and meditations....and have been bieng just more cautous?

And it seems to have been helping.
Still, keeping tract of all mailing, calls, responses, both physically in my local world, and mentally, psychic'ly, also!
(Keeping journal) of all dreams, odd thoughts, and such....

I kinda sound paranoid dont I? :hahugh: Anyway, all is seeming better, but not going to slaken now! Brightest Blessings,

Wytchie
August 7th, 2006, 07:25 AM
I have been working on improving the shielding thingy so sorry it has taken me so long to reply, I don't know if I have ever had a definite psychic vampire experience, although I do tend to find groups of people in general draining I don't know if this is because there might be a psychic vampire present or not if I am totally honest...

moonbride
August 7th, 2006, 07:48 AM
I hate to have to say this but my oldest daughter (19) is actually the biggest psychic vampire in my life right now. But since I've been doing the grounding, centering and shielding in these lessons, she hasn't gotten to me as much as she has in the past. I've been able to take her antics more in stride than ever before and I've felt so much better for it and so much stronger. Every now and again I will forget to do this first thing before she'll call me (she lives out of state from me) and boy can I ever tell the difference. So that just makes it that much easier for me to remember to do what I need to do.

~Elise~
August 7th, 2006, 08:38 AM
I have been working on improving the shielding thingy so sorry it has taken me so long to reply, I don't know if I have ever had a definite psychic vampire experience, although I do tend to find groups of people in general draining I don't know if this is because there might be a psychic vampire present or not if I am totally honest...

Grounding/shielding well before you are in groups of people can keep you from broadcasting your energy out to everyone...that may be the case, I don't know...but something for you to think about.

Elise

Brightshores
August 7th, 2006, 08:54 AM
No-The problems that you listed do not 'mitigate the circumstance', at least in my opinion. I think it is part of why they are like that.
(snip) But--they would more likely be a psy vamp, not instigating an attack. (in most cases)
Elise

Ok - At the risk of sounding like an enormous rant, here it goes.

My mother is probably - no definitely - the biggest psychic vampire I know. She also happens to be a chronic alcoholic with BPD. Over the years, she's done some terrible things, all of which I'm sure come from her inner pain, but which have had seriously bad effects on me, the rest of the family, and her friends. She's a master manipulator and is ruthless when attacking others or applying guilt. Her friends have even contacted me, complaining about psy-vamp (though they didn't use those words) attacks she's made against them.

What I've done about it - I haven't really been speaking with her for several months now, since I just couldn't handle the guilt, the manipulation, and the lies anymore. But, she still tries to attack me by proxy via other members of the family, and has even called up my husband's father to complain about the both of us.

Anyway - In order to further defend against my mother, I am going to continue to develop my grounding and shielding abilities. I also plan on working with the cord-cutting meditation that you posted - it seems really useful - although I am afraid of what my mother's cord will look like, and I haven't yet made the acquaintance of the Archangel Michael. :)

I also am working on intent, which I think was the subject of the last bit of the instructional post. I am working on emotional balance- I wish her well, but will no longer accept her negative energy. I will try to deflect that energy to the earth for grounding and renewal, and simply detach from the situation.

It's been a long, hard road, but I really think some of the things I'm learning in this class are going to help a lot. So - thank you. :smile:

~Elise~
August 7th, 2006, 09:01 AM
wow--I don't envy the task you've got ahead of you, but you are on the right track. I wish you the best of luck and strong shields!

Elise

Brightshores
August 7th, 2006, 09:19 AM
wow--I don't envy the task you've got ahead of you, but you are on the right track. I wish you the best of luck and strong shields!

Elise

Thank you - that means a lot. :colorful:

Wytchie
August 7th, 2006, 09:56 AM
Grounding/shielding well before you are in groups of people can keep you from broadcasting your energy out to everyone...that may be the case, I don't know...but something for you to think about.

Elise

Thanks for that...I am aware that my shield still keeps "slipping" from time to time so have been trying to practice with that a fair bit, I make a conscious effort 3-4 times a day to renew it, and it is definitely getting quicker and easier to do each time, I am also trying to make myself aware when I am letting it "wobble" before it actually goes and this seems to be improving too, so hopefully with improvement I will be able to make some progress with this!

Its good to know that what I am currently doing should help once I crack it though, so thank you :)

misfitroxy
August 7th, 2006, 01:18 PM
Reading through this has been difficult simply because it brought up a lot of memories of the worst (and pretty much the only one that I can pin-point) psychic vampire who was in my life. This individual was one of my closest friends a few years back, and fit the profile outlined at the start of this thread to a T.

I'm somewhat hesitant to go into great detail about the experience due to the public nature of this forum. However, I will say that as a result of my continued interactions with this person, I spent almost a year in recovery from intense depression and a non-diagnosable physical condition that kept me weakened and largely incapacitated. (I think I mentioned or at least hinted at this situation in my class introduction, so here's the follow-up to all of that...)

Now that I think about it, so many of the instances that I dismissed during our "friendship" as strange, unexplainable moments of physical weakness on my part suit the PV symptoms in full. I've fainted in this person's presence (after prolonged one-on-one interaction) and was often very confused and disoriented feeling once I returned home from visiting or going out with them (I had a lot of moments where I'd think back on belittling or passive aggressive things this person said to me and said to myself, "Huh? How did I let them get away with that?"). One time while the PV was staying with me, I wound up getting a migraine so severe I was literally retching in my toilet (and while I do get migraines from time to time, I've never had one so extreme that it caused such a physical response) and I immediately came down with a fever and flu on the day the PV left.

I was able to leave that relationship by recognizing the PV's unhealthy need for constance assurance and validation from others as well as this person's complete inability to take responsibility when they were at fault (and their uncanny talent for twisting the situation around to blame me or someone else for the wrongs they'd committed).

While I have not initiated contact with the PV in well over a year, we're still connected by mutal friends and aquaintances who either recognize the individual's abusive qualities and choose to ignore them to "save face" or don't know about how they're being used to feed their so-called friend. In recent months, I've been thinking that I should conduct some kind of release ritual to cleanse myself of the damage this person brought into my life as well as remove myself from their radar for good.

Regarding the second question, personally I think I'm pretty adept at distinguishing between a true psychic attack and a more mundane disagreement (or someone having a bad day and spouting off randomly in my direction). Mostly because I dealt with another individual (who was a close friend right before the PV came into my life. You could say I "traded up" from one negative relationship to another, which I'm sure says loads about where I was mentally at that point in my life) who could have taught a course in psychic attacks if she wanted to.

Unfortunately, I think I fed into that situation more and learned to attack back and perpetuate the problem instead of healing myself and removing the negativity from my life altogether. We actually had a "break up" conversation after several attempts at being close and in constant contact with one another in which we both revealed that we thought we brought the worst out in one another and didn't feel like we were really ourselves when we were together because we each seemed to become some hideous, malicious stranger spouting ugly words and harmful thoughts at the other individual. We pretty much stopped all contact then and there, and while I still wonder about her from time to time, I don't feel nearly as continually attached as with the PV I described above.

All in all, that relationship taught me to be very careful with my words and conscious of the energies that built up between myself and any individual I came into extended contact with. Some people just don't mesh at the end of the day, and trying to force a friendship (or romantic partnership or any kind of intimacy) with battling minds and spirits is really an exhausting effort.

Reading through the information that pearls59 shared, I'm very glad I didn't try anything retributive in either of the above situations. I considered it long and hard (especially during the latter scenario as I was more naive to universal energies at the time and my own moral compass was rather off balance) but figured walking away and caring for myself was the best course of action for both.

Now that I'm learning to shield and ground regularly and have also gained the wisdom these experience have blessed me with, I certainly feel more prepared. Though I'm trying to locate a balance, as I lived a life under a full shield for well over a year while I was recovering from the PV devastation. I remember a healer that I met during my recovery time who told me that all the protective charms and rituals are good for keeping out the bad things but they also keep out the good things too (meaning new friendships and relationships as well as positive energies being sent in my direction). I'm only now starting to feel like I can chip away at that wall and still be safe, which I guess means I'm gaining self-confidence as I realize that I'm the one that needs to be the filter or barrier instead of relying on something external to me to do the job with less discrimination and thoughtfulness.

Amythyst
August 8th, 2006, 09:15 AM
This has been the hardest lesson for me to absorb so far. One reason may be that when I first read the list of what constitutes a psychic vampire, it sounded a lot like me!! I was shocked! I thought, "Oh, my god!!--Am I?"

There was someone in my life that was described in this article, my exmother-in-law. Even people who were not aware of the term "Psychic Vampire" would complain about how draining she was.

Her eyes are always bugged out, wide open, she talks at a million words a minute, her movements are always fast and frenetic, and she can't sit still-- it's like she has a case of the itchy twitches. She also likes to be the center of attention and to have all conversation center around her. If you pause to catch your breath and your wits, she will lean into you and begin zooming along again onto the next thought and the next thought...it's mind boggling.

After spending an afternoon with this woman I was always physically drained-- exhausted, had a terrible headache, and felt almost sick.

How did I cope with her?...The best thing I did was to divorce her son and as he goes, so does she. :) But for fifteen years I had to learn to deal with it. The thing that worked best for me was learning to space her out. I'm very good at this-- just ask my sixth grade math teacher. (And my teacher now, Elise, if you could see me reading a lesson and starting to space out, you'd go get your ruler!)

I could be sitting beside this woman and I would hear her voice chattering on and on, but I would let my mind go, drift, not even trying to comprehend or follow or keep up with what she was talking about. It's as though I would allow my mind to slow down to a speed that was comfortable for me while her mind continued to go at it's usual 100 mph.

I don't know if there's a name for this or not, I just know that it worked and I didn't have to dread contact with my mother-in-law anymore. And the really strange part is that this woman never seemed to notice!

~Elise~
August 8th, 2006, 03:58 PM
Thanks for that...I am aware that my shield still keeps "slipping" from time to time so have been trying to practice with that a fair bit, I make a conscious effort 3-4 times a day to renew it, and it is definitely getting quicker and easier to do each time, I am also trying to make myself aware when I am letting it "wobble" before it actually goes and this seems to be improving too, so hopefully with improvement I will be able to make some progress with this!

Its good to know that what I am currently doing should help once I crack it though, so thank you :)

And this is one of the main reasons I keep teaching this class. There is always something new to be learned and, gosh, isn't it amazing at some of the things we've put up with in the past?

Elise

~Elise~
August 8th, 2006, 03:58 PM
Thank you - that means a lot. :colorful:

You're very welcome!

Elise

~Elise~
August 8th, 2006, 04:01 PM
Now that I'm learning to shield and ground regularly and have also gained the wisdom these experience have blessed me with, I certainly feel more prepared. Though I'm trying to locate a balance, as I lived a life under a full shield for well over a year while I was recovering from the PV devastation. I remember a healer that I met during my recovery time who told me that all the protective charms and rituals are good for keeping out the bad things but they also keep out the good things too (meaning new friendships and relationships as well as positive energies being sent in my direction). I'm only now starting to feel like I can chip away at that wall and still be safe, which I guess means I'm gaining self-confidence as I realize that I'm the one that needs to be the filter or barrier instead of relying on something external to me to do the job with less discrimination and thoughtfulness.

Now that you're getting better at the shielding--you'll learn how to set the 'filters' if you will. And it should always be under YOUR control in what/whom you decide to let in.

Elise

~Elise~
August 8th, 2006, 04:04 PM
This has been the hardest lesson for me to absorb so far. One reason may be that when I first read the list of what constitutes a psychic vampire, it sounded a lot like me!! I was shocked! I thought, "Oh, my god!!--Am I?"

I had one IRL student realize she was sabatoging herself from taking this class.


How did I cope with her?...The best thing I did was to divorce her son and as he goes, so does she. :) But for fifteen years I had to learn to deal with it. The thing that worked best for me was learning to space her out. I'm very good at this-- just ask my sixth grade math teacher. (And my teacher now, Elise, if you could see me reading a lesson and starting to space out, you'd go get your ruler!)

I could be sitting beside this woman and I would hear her voice chattering on and on, but I would let my mind go, drift, not even trying to comprehend or follow or keep up with what she was talking about. It's as though I would allow my mind to slow down to a speed that was comfortable for me while her mind continued to go at it's usual 100 mph.

I don't know if there's a name for this or not, I just know that it worked and I didn't have to dread contact with my mother-in-law anymore. And the really strange part is that this woman never seemed to notice!

Ruler--schmuler--I use cluex4s instead.

Elise

slntmom
August 11th, 2006, 07:17 PM
Think about a psychic vampire that is in your life now...how are you going to be able to counter them now?i actually dont have anyone in my life that is a pv. That is now because since ive been doing the exercises and stopped being so empethetic and trying to make other peoples problems my own i have alot more energy and i am having the time of my life

Is there a situation that you thought was a psychic attack and now you think it isn't? How are you going to change your attitude towards it?never had this experience
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~Elise~
August 15th, 2006, 10:11 PM
Is everyone aware that Lesson 7 was posted last week?

Just wondering!?!

Elise

moonbride
August 16th, 2006, 06:52 AM
Is everyone aware that Lesson 7 was posted last week?

Just wondering!?!

Elise

Yikes... no I somehow missed that and I'll get right on it.

Rowan Darkmoon
August 16th, 2006, 08:29 PM
Think about a psychic vampire that is in your life now...how are you going to be able to counter them now?

Is there a situation that you thought was a psychic attack and now you think it isn't? How are you going to change your attitude towards it?

A psychic vampire that's in my life now is my best friend. I never realized how much she affected me, until I took the time to set good boundaries with her physically and psychologically. She just always wanted something: money, my time, my help, my sympathy, etc... and she never took my advice. I put up with it because she gave me sympathy and listened to me, but I realized that she was also fueling my anger about certain situations because she would fan the flames to get me going, and then leave me feeling really depressed and fatigued.

I had to learn to say "No" with her, and that's really hard for me. Before I started the job I have now, I wasn't used to saying "No" or putting my foot down. Now it's a lot easier for me. And for the PV's at work, again, I have to set appropriate boundaries with them. Being assertive is the best thing I found for myself to keep myself from these kinds of attacks because then people don't want to take advantage of me.

I've only had one situation where I thought something was a psychic attack, and I still believe that it was. I have done the cord exercise before, and I did it at that time, and asked the Morrigan to cut it for me. It worked very well. ;) The little negative things that happened day to day always got me down, but now I try to counter them by blowing them off. My mom always told me, "You can't sweat the small stuff...and everything's small stuff," and I try to abide by that. That seems to help. :)

Sobeq
August 21st, 2006, 06:59 AM
I have been paying attention to the people around me, and I do realise that I am mildly a psychic vampire. I have been working on controlling it without really knowing that's what I was doing -- all I knew was that I was relying on other people to solve my problems and make me happy -- since before I started the class. I have continued to become more aware of when I start to latch onto people, and am starting to get better control over it.

I have also observed that my mother is an enormous psychic vampire. I probably picked up on her behavior when I was very young. She has very low self esteem and frequently drags other people down to her emotional level. I have noticed that whenever she is unhappy, she (unrealised to her) makes sure that everyone else is unhappy, unless they try to fix whatever is bothering her. At least -- she seems very vampirey to me. I feel bad having to say that, and again, I've been working on not letting her get to me since before I knew what psychic vampires were, via shielding (what prior shielding experience I had before this class). It did seem to work.

Still no thoughts about psychic attack -- there's nobody I know who would attack me psychically, and I tend to keep a low profile, so I guess no nasties have noticed me, yet. *knocks on wood*

Skylah
August 21st, 2006, 12:53 PM
I realize (now through your lesson) that there is a PV in my life. She is my co-worker. When I'm around her I feel heavy, down, have less self confidence, and some days I feel very ill. She can be a very nice person, but does not have a very happy life. I don't know if she is aware of what she does to me, but I do feel she resents that I am generally a happy person, and have a loving homelife. On the other hand I do believe that to some extent this attack could be coming from myself, as I feel dreadful just knowing that I'll be working with her.

I wear my pendant and ring daily, but will now take care to cleanse them more often. I have tried to reflect back love to her, but the effect does not last long. I have been practicing my shielding though and am starting to feel more confident with being able to shield myself for longer periods of time. I will work on my own attitude towards her, so that I hopefully won't anticipate a bad day ahead, thus feeding into the energy. The next time I feel attacked, I'll try the method of cutting cords and let you know how it goes.

~Elise~
August 21st, 2006, 07:15 PM
Amazing, ain't it, when we stop and look around us?

Put a dreamcatcher outside your cubicle and let it catch the bad energy. Maybe even a mirror to reflect it back out towards her.

Elise

Skylah
August 28th, 2006, 08:02 PM
:ballonsmi I started back to work today and I felt myself (almost instinctively) starting to raise my shield at the onstart of comments and looks. I kept my cool though, and kept good thoughts today anyway. I love your idea of hanging a dream catcher at my work station!! Thank you, I'll take it with me to work tomorrow.

innocent
September 4th, 2006, 07:02 PM
I finally got the "cord cutting" method to work with my ex-bf who was a psychic vampire. :) I had alot of trouble with this assignment but Im glad i finally know how to stop these attacks! :D TY

Philosophia
September 25th, 2006, 10:36 PM
The psychic vampire I know isn't aware that she actually does it and I don't feel confident enough to confront her about it. Instead I use to simply stay away from her. The rational part of my mind was commonly trying to find out why, when I was near her, I felt suddenly tired and lethargic. I could figure out why it was like that and I continually tried to find a rational solution. I know I wasn't the only one who felt like this and in one case, another friend fainted from simply being tired (though she was unsure why she felt tired).
I checked myself quite regulary and I know that energy I send out is somewhat "soaked" into the shield that I've created. I do know that not all does get soaked in. However, I do not believe I was the cause as it was too strong a "pull".
The best way I can probably combat this is to ground and shield as much as possible. Its the only way to properly stop the psychic vampire.

There have been many times I thought I was under attack but soon realized that it was a simple reason (i.e. low blood sugar or simple tiredness).
I don’t think my attitude will change much because I’m pretty skeptic until I have absolute proof that its an actual attack.