Empathic Rape

[Phenyxxfire]

I posted this as part of a reply to the "experiencing empathy" thread but it occurred to me that maybe someone else has been through this.

My exhusband is an extremely powerful transmitting empath who used his abilities as a weapon. No matter where I tried to hide, he would force his emotions onto me and into my head until I would just start screaming out of control. Until I realized what he was doing, I thought I was going insane. It was a horrible kind of empathic rape that left me shredded and emotionally violated. I divorced him almost 7 years ago. I'm recovering but strong emotions can still feel like a band saw cutting through my skull.

Has anyone else ever had experience recovering from abuse of this kind?

[Infinite Grey]

was he contacting you over this time period? As in phone calls, personal contact, email, mail, dead cats on the porch...

[Phenyxxfire]

The abuse took place while we were married and living in the same house which was almost 10 years (1991-2000).

Since the divorce in 2000, I've had to maintain regular contact with him because we had a child together. He's been in therapy for PTSD and has made great strides in his abusive behavior but I'm still dealing with the aftermath and my own recovery. It's not like I can go to a shrink and talk about empathic rape though.

[Pesha]

But hun you can come here and talk to us. We all understand what you are having to deal with. Emoyional Vampires are some of the worst kind of people in my book. Mind rape is awful, I know from painful personal experience. So please sweety feel free to vent and express yuorself here. In this safe environment. Hugs and love and light.

[Aleannah]

have you been able to successfully block him? If not, there are some techniques that you can use to emotionally disconnect yourself from him. I have had to use them previously for people that were like that, although not nearly as severe, but it worked. :hugz:

[Johnathan Brisby]

Not to muddle this for anybody, but it's the vibrations which are making you uncomfortable- you're not only taking in 10 times the information from your other five senses as normal people due to your sensitivity, but the energy waves that carry those sights, sounds, smells, and such as well.

Cats have the same ability- whiskers not just in their faces but but other places as well give them information regarding energy vibrations. Sharks do this as well with their lateral line, and dolphins take it a step further by actively engaging and enhancing this ability with clicks and whistles- wa-la!-homemade sonar.

Look at it as just that- organic sonar, and it simplifies the situation for you. I'm not discounting the spiritual aspects of your gift, but emotions carry a strong energy signature and that's what your feeling. I find I have to move away from people who are unintentionally emitting negativity and draining my positivity.

I do know a person who does have the kind of muscle you're describing though, it's quite rare in my experience. I can actually feel her temper tantrums and emotional outbursts inside me and I don't even have to be in the same building- she can be a couple blocks down the street in fact.

Soul bonding through the eyes and touch can be dangerous- sharp pains are not fun- and I'm not embellishing. Sensitivity can manifest and enhance during periods of extreme emotional stress, which is what it sounds like you went through. I myself had a long span of emotional trauma which came to a close recently- i don't think we can go back to the way things were before our abilities were forced to mature.

Good luck you're not alone

[Sequoia]

I was in an abusive situation similar to this. My best advice to you would be this: find some professional therapy.

Honestly, truly.

Empathy and energy are all connected to emotion, and even if he wasn't doing anything at all, I have a feeling that this situation would still be hurting you deeply.

Nobody can effect you if you do not LET them effect you, when it comes to energy stuff. Your denial of their power is either a neutralizing force or a POWERFUL shield (whichever fits your view better). But in order to do this, you have to emotionally get through it as well. Believe me, I know. :hugz:

I would seek out some therapy, especially if you live in an area where you can find a more open, new-agey therapist. Focus on yourself, and he won't be able to hurt you any more.

[Drouach]

I don't think it means he is empath because he can force his emotions onto someone.

I have seen many non-empaths do that. That is simply projecting emotions which every does.

Perhaps he focussing his emotions intently on his wife (in a bad way).

An empath is someone who can pick up information.

Any person can project their thoughts and feelings, they do not need to be empathic or telepathic to do this.

If they needed to be an empath to do this, then Empaths would only be able to pick up signals from other empaths.

[This guy may well have been an empath I don't know. But from the way the behaviour is described - it should not be tolerated by anyone]

[greenmoon]

Wow I used to get this type of attack from my mother. It would literally make my teeth rattle. To an extent I managed to neutralize the effect through meditation, but I'd literally need to meditate full on while being in her presence, not giving it away though. I realized though that what this style of meditation was doing was dissolving the areas that her energy could hook into me. When there was no where to hook then the vibrations would just pass right through.