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~Elise~
January 7th, 2007, 08:50 PM
Psychic Attacks & Psychic Vampires

Definition: Living person who "drains" others emotionally either empathically (draining the auric life force) or metaphorically (someone who takes emotionally without giving anything back; a "user").

Psychic vampires feed off their victim's energy, or prana (the Hindu name for energy or life force), in the same way that mythical vampires drink human blood to feed themselves. Not all psychic vampires are doing this consciously though. People who are emotionally needy or manipulate others to get their own way by making them feeling guilty are unconscious vampires. Spending time with a particular person can leave you feeling drained physically and emotionally. This is an indication of psychic vampirism. Some people consciously take other's energy by tapping into their victim's aura and draining the energy that way. People who are particularly sensitive or vulnerable are more likely to be a target for psychic vampires. Fear leaves people open to this form of attack.
Let's face it--we've probably all fallen prey to a psychic vampire, possibly without even knowing it. It may have been a chance encounter with an energy predator that left us temporarily exhausted, or possibly along-term vampire interaction with serious wear-and-tear effects on the mind and body.

Psychic vampirism is alive and flourishing in the world today. As consumers of energy rather than blood, vampires of the psychic kind exist in many guises but with one common trait--their own inadequate energy system compels them to tap into and feed upon the energies of unsuspecting host victims. The immediate results of such a one-on-one vampire encounter are anew but temporary surge of energy for the psychic vampire and a serious loss of mental and physical energy for the unsuspecting prey. If you suddenly feel emotionally or mentally depleted, you may be under attack by a psychic vampire. The unfortunate effects of prolonged energy loss are damage to the energy system itself and in some instances, serious illness.

As consumers of energy rather than blood, psychic vampires, like their folklore counterparts, can be men or women, young or old. They can be tween, teens, or adults. They can be professionals in business suits, wealthy dot. comers, dapper CEOs, ultra-groovy rock stars, or construction workers in hard hats. They can be a business associate, next door neighbor, or even family member.
This is from New Worlds, Issue NW023 by Joe Slate:


Psychic vampirism is alive and flourishing in the world today. It exacts a heavy toll-it demands life-force energy and in some instances, it literally destroys lives. At a personal level, it wastes our energies, dampens the immune system, and undermines the body’s natural defenses against illness. At a global level, it can literally drain the earth of its survival resources and interrupt its harmony and balance. It follows that finding ways of preventing psychic vampirism, or successfully counteracting it, must be among our top priorities. There are several forms of psychic vampirism, each of which demands a host victim.
In the one-on-one vampire encounter, the psychic vampire taps into the energy system of a selected host victim for the express purpose of extracting energy. Typical one-on-one psychic vampires are not agents of evil bent on the destruction of their victims. Furthermore, they possess none of the supernatural powers attributed to folklore vampires. They function instead from a position of profound weakness. Deficient in energy, and with their own energy system usually impaired, they seek other energy options-the energy system of a host victim.
Almost everyone has experienced the common vampire interaction that left them both mentally and physically fatigued. Unfortunately, the psychic vampire’s energy system is only temporarily replenished, thus requiring repeated attacks. For the host victim of recurring attacks, the consequences can be extremely harmful.
In the group setting, psychic vampirisrn can involve multiple vampires and victims. It can occur within groups and between groups, with power, wealth, and control being among its major goals. Highly competitive groups whose goal is to subdue or defeat the opposition, along with heated political campaigns, seem particularly vulnerable to group psychic vampirism. In its most dangerous form, it can include the organized activities of predator gangs, criminal groups, and drug trafficking networks.
Even major corporations have been known to stoop to psychic vampirism. Any organization that exploits human beings has clear fingerprints of psychic vampirism. Big Tobacco with its long history of predatory marketing practices, some of which targeted children. Enron Corporation’s vampirization of its beleaguered employees are examples of corporate psychic vampirism on an alarming scale.
The globe itself is vulnerable to psychic vampirism that recklessly exhausts its natural resources, pollutes its environment, threatens its species, and erodes its potential for progress. Psychic vampirism’s consequences can span centuries. It can affect everyone and in some instances, it literally puts the future of the planet at risk.

An internal form of vampirism, parasitic vampires are twice the victim-they are both vampire and host. Examples are phobias, obsessions, compulsions, and an array of self-defeating stress reactions-each of which is like a blood-sucking vampire with a demonic appetite. The more they devour, the more they demand. By attacking from the inside, they drain their host of essential energy, and eventually grid down the energy system itself.
Some warning signs that may make you aware that you are being preyed on in this way are: tiredness, fatigue, depression, headaches, nausea, dizziness, feeling drained, anxiety, panic attacks and nightmares. If the attacks continue, then the victim can become very ill, both physically and psychologically. Some people believe that the practice of psychic vampirism can make you live for ever.
Understand, psychic vampires are typically not mean, cruel people. Oftentimes, they are totally unaware of their impact on others. Initially, they are quite charming and attractive. They draw others in with their cunning and guile. Like vampires displayed on Hollywood's silver screen, psychic vampires avoid looking at themselves in the mirror. This avoidance of mirrors signifies a psychological tendency to avoid the self. The psychic vampire avoids, at all costs, self-examination. As you know, vampires literally live in the dark. Similarly, psychic vampires refuse to become enlightened by the light of knowledge. They lurk in darkness, under cover and unaware of how they negatively influence and drain other peoples' emotional energy.

Having avoided self-reflection, these individuals naturally deny responsibility for how they affect others and how they attempt to live off the energy of others. For instance, a typical interaction with a psychic vampire might appear like this:
The PV usually begins a conversation with a complaint of some sort. If the person they're talking with chooses to respond with a solution, optimistic comment or some other positive response, the PV will literally live off that person's positive energy. Rather than do this for him/herself, the PV relies on other people to provide him/her with this type of energy. As the word "vampire" conveys, the PV saps the energy of others, which is why the other person ends up feeling emotionally drained.

It is not unusual for a person who is ill or feeling inadequate emotionally to draw upon or deplete energized individuals of their life force. These "suckers" are not bad people, most of them are not aware on a conscious level that they are doing what they are doing. Still, their unknowing actions can play havoc with anyone who leaves an energetic opening for this type of thievery. It is important for us to be aware that we may be susceptible to having our energies stolen from us and learn ways to protect ourselves. The harm in a psychic attack is that there is no fair exchange of energy and therefore one feels depleted while the other becomes energized.
The hard part in dealing with these type people is that initially they do implant themselves into your lives as friends. Then through a slow process the friendship is replaced by a constant draining on you. Being that we know that some people take longer than others to get through their issues we continue to try to help. What I have discovered in them is that they do not really want the help to improve their lives. They want to release the energy to someone else so they can continue on their way. They are in essence vampires of your energy and need to be removed from your life.
Do not let their issues become your issues. Refuse to accept or absorb their issues as your own. Become aware of what individuals deplete your energy and limit your contact with them. Using the Visualization Techniques that you’ve already been learning in this course- Build walls of protection or create a bubble of light surrounding your auric field.
The harm in a psychic attack is that there is no fair exchange of energy and therefore one feels depleted while the other becomes energized.

Symbiotics
This is another form of psychic vampire with the exception that these creatures survive on the draining of negative energy alone.
As an example, usually they will seek out and draw strength from sickness in any human they encounter.
In draining the negative energy a victim invariably feels better and is possibly even healthier.
The difference between the two forms is that symbiotics drain negative energy with intent but at the same time do not usually wish to harm their victim.
However psychic vampires drain any energy they can, sometimes harming the victim.
Please note though, some psychic vampires and symbiotics are not evil! They can be good and bad just like you and me.

Traits of A Psychic Vampire

experiences feelings of abandonment or rejection
needs constant reassurance
never feels satisfied
seeks nurturing
low energy - fatiguedSymptoms Of Psychic Attack

leaky or diminishing aura
dizziness
loss of energy
muscle tension
mental confusion
headaches
chronic fatigue
sleep disturbances
irritability
depressed mood
physical illness
Among healers the sharing of energy is referred to as cording. This cord represents life support tubing energetically connecting two individuals together. Babies are born with a cord attaching them to their mothers, this is natural. But there comes a time for a mother to Cut the Apron Strings allowing her child to go out into the world on its own. This is appropriate. If the mother fails to break the cord, the child will eventually attempt to do it. This too is appropriate.
Actually if the energy sharing was done equally it would be silly to have the cord in place at all. It is possible to be in a relationship without cording one another, in fact it is preferable. Couples that share one life source ordinarily create a relationship in which one individual becomes weaker, the other stronger. The weakened person feels collapsed because of giving away his/her life source. The stronger person feels great for a time, but his/her appetite may very well increase, craving more and more of the shared energy.

There are different types of situations we face in life that are difficult. Ending relationships ranks pretty high up in the "tough stuff" category. It doesn't matter if you were the person who walked away or if someone else left you, a loss is felt either way. It is especially painful if a relationship ends without closure. Unfortunately, often times when people "breakup" what they don't realize is that they may very well still have cords attached. The intact cord keeps an open channel for continuous feeding on each others emotions and anxieties.

One way to cut the cord, so to speak is to do a visualization similar to this one that I teach:

Go into a meditative state.
See your body.
See all the cords extending from your etheric body. Some of those cords you will want to keep, be they relationships with your kids, SO, spouse, family, parents, friends, etc.
Some of those you are going to want to sever; ex-bfs, ex-husbands, friends and family that are no longer in your life, co-workers from jobs that you don't even work at anymore.
See those cords attaching into your body with a bungee-cord type of hook/attachment.
Pick one cord at a time...pull that cord towards you to give you a bit of slack to be be able to unhook it from your body without tearing it out.
Cut the end of the cord that was attached to you...sometimes just a blade or ax won't do it. Sometimes that hook will be as big as an anchor. KNOW that you will have whatever tool available to you that will cut the end off that cord so it can not reattach itself to you.
DO NOT ATTEMPT TO CUT THE OTHER PERSON'S END. You only need to worry about your end. Without the hook on it, it can not reattach itself to you.
Now, that said...an experienced psyvamp can reattach that cord once they realize they are not attached to you any longer. So you may need to do this several time over the course of a couple of months.
I've been known to call on Archangel Michael to cut one cord with his flaming sword. I just could not get it done on my own. Needless to say, that one never came back.
Another way of subtle protection upon which you will not have to concentrate is by using herb pouches, or gem stones that you carry with you or wear in the form of a necklace etc. These can be quite good, but do remember to take them off and cleanse them every so often as they will suck in the negativity etc and you may find it will begin to affect you mentally and physically.
Now -- what is the difference between a psychic vampire and a psychic attack? Here is an excerpt of an article written by Christopher Penczak:


Psychic Attacks
Psychic attacks come in many forms. The simplest is an everyday experience. Someone says something bad about you, makes a judgment, calls you a name, yells or curses at you. The person is directing his or her energy in a harmful way toward you. If you are not strong enough in self-esteem and personal power, these little attacks take their toll.
Do not become paranoid with this information. Do not go running around accusing everyone who does not agree with you of a psychic attack. Such negativity is not meant as an attack. It is an unfortunate by-product of how our society conducts itself. This is a simple, subtle way harmful energy is directed. We all do it at times. Most often, we do it to ourselves. We judge ourselves as not worthy, not attractive, not lovable, and these images become thought forms, packets of energy, filled with a poor self-image. When people experience an "attack," they usually are experiencing and clearing these thought forms. Be aware and responsible of your own thoughts, directed towards yourself and others.
Other thought forms and astral entities have a life of their own. You might feel a malevolent presence or voice. These are the reported demons and devils plaguing mystics. They take the form of your greatest fears. Their goal is your fear, your attention, your time and energy. They draw energy from you to feed their existence. Ignoring them is an easy way to break their hold. Laughter is even better. If you don't take them seriously, they will lose power.
The last kind of psychic attack is the most rare, coming from another practitioner of the magickal arts. These attacks come as curses, wishing bad luck, nightmares and psychic or mental pain. Usually, the person knows you and will have some vendetta against you. My mother's godmother practiced folk magick in her Italian community and broke curses all the time. Belief and giving into the curse is the worst thing you can do. The more you feel you are cursed, the more the universe responds. No one can curse you unless you let him or her.

Psychic Defenses
All psychic defenses are based in building your own self-esteem, personal power and confidence. Some contain more physical acts, but ultimately it is your will empowering those acts.
To purify a space and prevent unwanted, harmful energy from entering, burn purifying herbs. Frankincense and myrrh are a favorite of both witches and the Catholic Church. Native Americans use sage, cedar and sweetgrass. Southern American cultures burn copal. You can also use lavender or cinnamon. These substances naturally clear a space. Salt absorbs harmful energy. Iron grounds the same energy. Horseshoes were pointed down and hung over doors for this purpose. Iron nails are placed in house frames for the same reason. Potions and oils made of these substances are worn for protection.
(Let’s see….that would be the smudging lesson we’ve just covered)
Magickal symbols of protection can be worn or drawn. Pentacles, crosses, the Star of David and the Eye of Horus are strong protection symbols, and you can usually find jewelry made with these symbols. Wear this jewelry with the intent of protection. A banishing pentagram, a star drawn starting in the lower left corner, dissolves harmful thought forms and removes unwanted spirits. Repeat it as many times as necessary.
(We’ll get to this one very soon)
During meditation, start by visualizing a shield of clear crystal around your entire body, about three feet away. State "This protection shield protects me from all harm and reflects love back on the source of the harm." Never send energy back to do harm; it will again return to trouble you. Even if one attacks you first, you are not justified to curse back. By sending love, you neutralize the harm. Wishing good things on your enemies can be the key to defeating them. They will be so happy with what they have that they stop bothering you. Bless your harm away, and more blessings will return to you. Similar protection shield visualizations can be used around your home, car, loved ones and pets.
(Hmmm…this would be the Grounding, centering and shielding lessons we’ve been doing all along…see--told you all this built on each lesson, so far)
Sometimes binding spells are necessary. Write the name of the person meaning you harm on a piece of paper. Put it in a bottle, bound with black thread. Fill the bottle with sea salt, protection herbs, iron filings and things like John the Conqueror root. Seal the bottle and ask that this person harm you no longer. As long as you do not open it, the binding will last. You can put the bottle in your freezer or bury it in the backyard.
As a last resort, call upon your guardian spirits. Call on your guardian angel, your spirit guides or the Goddess and God. A student of mine protected himself by asking for help from Mother Earth and drawing Her energy up and directing it to the malevolent spirit. Be creative when protecting.
As you claim your power and grow in your magickal abilities, you will move in harmony with the universe and attract less attention from such darker entities. Others wishing you harm will effortlessly roll off you because you know your place in the cosmic dance of life. Nothing can make you skip a beat of your dance.
This is from sacred-texts, an article by Zhahai Stewart:
What to do if you think you are being attacked. 1 - Question if it is really either imagination, or coming from within yourself. Something may be trying to get your attention, but it may not be external, and by focusing on an external "enemy" you may be missing the point. 2 - Check to see if you are yourself inadvertently sending something out; maybe someone is just reflecting some energy back! Nothing is gained if you get into adversarial mode in that case. Many people have been taught that reflecting is the proper response. 3 - Put up a grounding shield. Ground it out, send it to the Mother who can recycle the energy. Grounding is usually taught to every student. If you don't feel you can be a "conduit" safely, ground it by reflecting it downward to the Earth; that is a big target and easy to hit. By grounding it out, you are protecting yourself, yet not being caught up in it. What not to do. 1 - Figure out who is sending it and counter attack. You might be wrong, and may be starting a feud. You might be right, but they may not realize that they are "sending" so you may start a feud or cause unnecessary harm. Even if you are right, you are escalating a feud, of which we have too many. This is commonly discussed as a bad idea. 2 - Put up a reflective shield which will return the energy to the sender.This is commonly discussed as a good idea, but we disagree. We think this is unwise. For one thing, it is not necessary; if you can make an accurate return reflection, you can certainly reflect it to Earth instead (where it can be recycled). There is no reason you should not be able to ground out more energy than you can accurately reflect to the sender, if viewed properly. For another, your accuracy in returning it may be less than perfect. You might hit close but not close enough; if you can't reflect it to earth, youare going to have trouble reflecting it to an unknown person. Sometimes this is discussed as if once you return it, the sender will just stop; because they will awaken to what they are doing, or because the returning energy will be too much to handle. The thing which is seldom mentioned is that if the sender (assuming there is one) was consciously attacking, they will likely already be prepared with their own mirrors, etc. Great, if we put near perfect mirrors at each end and pump in energy, maybe we can get a psychic laser effect; guess who is just on the other side of the mirrors to catch the intensified leak thru? If they weren't aware of sending, they will probably just assume they are being attacked and take countermeasures. If they follow the 3 steps above, fine, nothing is damaged. But many of them will immediately think they have to put up a defensive mirror, or maybe worse (see below; they may decide to teach you a lesson for attacking them). Few people naturally respond to perceived attacks positively (especially if they are in such a bad mood already as to be sending without even realizing it). Another serious concern is getting drawn into a unacknowledged feud by your own weaknesses. It is often agreed that one should reflect back exactly what is received, without adding anything of one's own. But the same people who advocate that may use terms implying "returning it with enthusiasm". There appears to be an easily tapped source of self-righteousness in most people feeling attacked, and it is _very hard_ not to get drawn into imagining, at some level, the satisfying effects of the energy going back to the attacker; that draws one into a "counter-attack" even without realizing it. Grounding it does not. Watch for yourself when people are discussing "returning to sender"; see if there isn't very often a hidden desire for revenge or retribution lurking there grasping for their "control panel" - and deflecting their normal attempts at staying centered by claiming to do no more than is "justified".Justified is not the question; self knowledge and balance are. There is another thread which shows up often in discussions like these; the need to "teach the sender a lesson". In some cases, I have even heard this justified as "protecting the community". This way lies many pitfalls. Did the goddess give you an "agent of threefold return" marshal’s badge, that exempts you from any consequences "because you are just an agent"? That hubris is gonna teach some hard lessons, but the self appointed marshall may be the major recipient. It would be a little bit healthier to just shed the self-righteousness and call it an ego driven feud. "Teaching them a lesson" gets filed under the pitfalls of righteousness, the ways that one's own weaknesses seduce one. Also consider, what if despite your initial impression, the negative energy is really coming from inside, from part of you? Are you going to be better off "reflecting it back" (maybe with additional conscious or unconscious oomph) or grounding it? "Gee, I returned it but good, and now they have stepped it up; the sender really needs a lesson!". That may be more true than you know, bucko. Notice that nowhere do we say that one has no "right" to put up a reflective shield; of course one does, and is fully justified. Also, possibly, unwise. There is a distinction between what one has a "right" to do in "self defense", and what is wise to get drawn into. Reflecting it is neither necessary, nor likely to produce positive results, but if _that itself_ is the lesson to be learned, what can I say? Each chooses their own path, and that is as it should be. At least if one has considered the above, one should know what they are stepping into.

http://whispy.com/psychic-vampires.htm (http://whispy.com/psychic-vampires.htm)
http://www.llewellynjournal.com/article/513 (http://www.llewellynjournal.com/article/513)
http://healing.about.com/cs/energyhealing/a/aa_vampires.htm (http://healing.about.com/cs/energyhealing/a/aa_vampires.htm)
http://farshores.org/psyvamp.htm (http://farshores.org/psyvamp.htm)
http://www.widdershins.org/vol5iss2/07.htm (http://www.widdershins.org/vol5iss2/07.htm)
http://www.sacred-texts.com/bos/bos127.htm

~Elise~
January 7th, 2007, 08:51 PM
Think about a psychic vampire that is in your life now...how are you going to be able to counter them now?

Is there a situation that you thought was a psychic attack and now you think it isn't? How are you going to change your attitude towards it?

wolfjan1
January 8th, 2007, 11:52 AM
Got it and copied it.
I have a psy-vamp staying with me right now that I am about to take home and leave there.
She is the most negative person I have EVER known.
I have spoken to her about it. I have burned banishing oils and sudged myself right in front of her and told her why.
I have tried to speak with her about letting go of the things that she holds on to like no one else has experienced the Anguish she has gone through.
I have asked her not to speak negatively about anything for a solid day. She went in to the room where whe is staying and did not speak to me at all until she came out to eat, expecting me to have made something.
I am doing relatively well, as I practice meditation and work on things to protect myself. But the thing is, she is bipolar and does not think about ANYTHING or ANYONE but herself and her own misery. Her "manic" phase is anger.
So, I will explain to her what is happening and how she is draining me. I will be as kind as possible, but I WILL NOT let her sucker me in to keeping her in my house until I can recover. Now I have to clean and smudge the whole house, re-ground and re-center and re-cover.
Thank you for these lessons.
If you know of someone who is bi-polar who just sucks the life and joy out of everyone, can you help me with this one? This is the las resort and the last way to handle this for me.
I cannot let her stay in my space anymore for awhile.

The Panther's Dream
January 8th, 2007, 06:29 PM
My dad's side of the family are all like this. They're all very narcissitic, thinking only of themselves and nobody else. Nothing is ever their fault, and if we ever treat them how they treat us, which is horrible, we hear about it and get the whole guilt trip thing. Christmas was horrible, and since I'm turning 18 this year I've decided that I'm no longer going to attend Christmas Eve with them. They already know what our problem is with them, but my grandmother especially refuses to admit it's their fault in any way, preferring to blame my dad or mom for corrupting my brother and I and turning us against her and the "family". So this year I've told them all that I'm done with the drama, the being stuck in the middle, being treated like a mindless child. I'm going to inform them, as nicely as possible, that I'm no longer attending holiday events because of their previous and current actions and treatment of me and my mom and brother. I've had enough. Now that I'll be 18 I can't be forced into going anymore, and I don't need their negativity in my life.

~Elise~
January 8th, 2007, 07:36 PM
and that is about all that you can do in reality--talking to them does not help except maybe in the very short term.

If they aren't taking ownership of their problems and getting help for their bi-polar -- then backing away is all you can do for YOU.

Will that fix things--probably not--everything will be your fault. But it not YOUR problem to take on--it is their problem. if you have done all you can do and they've done what they can do with counseling and medication... you have to take care of you and release what control they've given back to them

It's not the easy answer and in some cases maybe even wrong depending on the circumstances--but you do have a responsibility to you and your health, mental and otherwise, that you have to take care of.

Elise

ETA--If anyone -- even someone not in the class -- has a different answer and I'm wrong in what I've posted--please feel to post here or PM me.

wolfjan1
January 9th, 2007, 01:48 AM
Well, she gathered all her stuff and I took her home tonight. Somehow I feel so much weight is lifted off my shoulders. Now I will ground and center again tonight and start all over cleaning in the morning.
Thank you for this class. The grounding and centering REALLY helped me to get better perspectives of this ongoing problem. Once I started shielding, I realized how much damage I was letting myself go through. So, I have been working very hard. The visualizations were of GREAT help. Working head to toe as I felt my vulnerable points and learned how to shield them gave me more courage every day to face my personal demons and stop letting myself be used. It took a bit of practice, but it is working.
Thank you so much for all of your guidance.

~Elise~
January 9th, 2007, 08:28 AM
and THAT is why I keep teaching the class--it does help others-each and every class.

Elise

Against The Tide
January 10th, 2007, 12:46 PM
Wow.... Plenty of food for thought - thank you for using the word 'chording' because it is something I have encountered before with loved ones (cept I called the, 'strings') and I haven't been able to find out much about them.

Its taken me a while to get round to reading all of this (working more hours than usual) but I think this is one of the most helpful lessons yet. Alot of my ex's and freinds are psi vampires (normally one or two in each circle of friends) and although they can be good friends they do suck the life out of me. Next time I get some time to meditate and visualise (sunday I hope) I will try servering reduntant or expensice chords.

I read the information on psychic attacks woth interest too - I've only been properly 'cursed' by one person before, but I do get alot of flak day-to-day, and it does take its toll. I haven't felt anything much since I started the daily sheilding though, so its an area I am happy with for now.


Think about a psychic vampire that is in your life now...how are you going to be able to counter them now?

Is there a situation that you thought was a psychic attack and now you think it isn't? How are you going to change your attitude towards it?

The next time I see a psychic vampire for an extended period of time where I will be in a possition to be 'sucked', I will sheild myself, server any chords (in advance) and keep a possitive, confident attitude and not let them bum me out so they can get their hooks into me. I think the next psi vamp I will see will be my old best friend, I'm staying with her for a weekend and I will be giving her a good talking to for advice and general help on life dirrection (she bottles things up but when she needs it she'll come to me for help)... I won't give her nothing, she will recieve love, attention, and understanding - but rather than let her bleed me dry I'll see if I can help her to help herself, to start making her own energies or at least not lose them at such a rate that she needs to rely on vampirism.

Psychic attacks... If I ever felt the victim again I'd try and brush it away rather than blame someone else and dwell on it. When in close quarters or after misunderstandings, there >will< be tense times. I guess I'll just buffer and reflect it. I've had more pressure and critism on me lately, but its just not been getting to me like it used to do. Its still there, its still a blow but its not the kind of thing that can cripple me, making me have a panic attack say....

Fencai
January 10th, 2007, 01:11 PM
Im actually going through this right now with a co-worker, in fact its the woman who sits next to me at work, and one of the main reasons I am taking this course.. She is unknowing that she does it,(as far as I know.) and since it is a work setting, I am not at liberty to say something to her. Well, that’s not entirely true, I do try and make her conscious of it by saying to her “We must always look for the positive”, or “Not everything can be that bad” (not to mention the fact that when she found out that Im a Witch, not a day goes by that she doesnt threaten to "save your soul" or make jokes about burning me at the stake, or seeing if i can float...)
But, she never has anything positive to say, and I can predict her day before she gets here. She comes in, and immediately starts saying that her computer is broken, and "what’s wrong with it now". Then moves on to complaining about what idiots our vendors are, and other people in the company. I have spoken to my boss about this, because it goes on all day, and it isnt just affecting me, there are a couple of other girls in our office who are bothered/drained by her, and flat out say that her negativity are disheartening to them. Much like in the article she fishes for responses. For example, the room will be dead silent, and she will say something like “I just found out that I have to go to my community board meeting. And you have no idea how awful it is to sit there with all those old men who are the biggest bunch of morons you have seen”. If she doesn’t get a response, she will wait a few minutes and try again with something like “Oh, I forgot my meeting last month. I wonder what they screwed up without me being there…” and looks around the room for a response.

I have gotten in the habit that when i get up in the morning and do my routine, I put in what i call my "public" space armour.I do this in the shower where I envision the water pouring on a metallic coating. (Sometimes I get funny looks cause I’m doing this in the shower at the gym at 530am! ) There are some filters put on, but I do allow things to come through and out.
I have made it a point to get to work about 30 minutes early every day. This way, when I turn on my computer, I also put up my "work space" armor. I envision an extra layer of glowing white/metal being put up and over my first armour. Almost like a high gloss polish. This has much heavier filters, and I also shield my desk area. And I keep those shields up until I get through my drive home and turn off the car. I also have noticed that I can "feel" her negativity touching my armour. When this happens, I deflect it to the earth and envision it being cleansed and reused for good purposes. Sometimes, most of the time, I am into my work, and don’t notice it any more. I feel much happier and find myself sending positive energies to the room. A couple of the girls have said that they noticed a happier feeling as of recent, so I keep reminding them that if they put out the good vibes that they will come back to them.
I wish that I could smudge my desk area. Since I can’t bring burning herbs into the office, would anointing my desk with oils of the herbs have a similar effect?
And also, since I know that a while ago someone had mentioned to me to put up a mirror and deflect her negativity back to her. I like that idea, and I don’t. Would it be possible to put up a mirror that besides the normal process of cleansing would have a spell on it to ask that whoever is looking into it, or when energies are bounced off of it, that it only reflects love and kindness?

I was not aware of severing any chords, but you can bet your sweet bippy that I will be checking that out later!

wolfjan1
January 10th, 2007, 01:14 PM
It seems that there are a great deal of people out there who refuse to take responsibility for their own concersn. It is so much easier to find a host to feed on than get your own life. And there are a lot of hosts out there that are getting battle fatigue from all of the vamps. We really need to take care of ourselves and re-evaluate how we put ourselves out there to be a "fixer."
They can smell that miles away and come at one like gangbusters.
It is in our best interests to support ourselves and each other through these classes and truly work hard to take care of ourselves. It takes a great deal of work at first, and at times it seems like we just can't do it. Then, things start to fall together and the lessons learned and all the hard work becomes part of our daily routine and we can begin to automatically just do it and be safer.
Thanks, Pearl, for all of your help. I am glad to be part of this class.

Fencai
January 10th, 2007, 04:56 PM
Huzzah!!!

~Elise~
January 10th, 2007, 08:11 PM
Yes--you could have the mirror send back love & light--personally I wouldn't--I'd reflect back exactly what she's sending out because if she's got that coming back at her - she will either overload and leave the job or overload and maybe get on antidepressents... either way--your problem is solved--not masked.

and yes--using the oil will work just as well as smudging... it is actually a form of smudging.

I'm very happy to hear how well this class is helping people... and yes, it is a struggle at first--then all the sudden it isn't--

Doing my part to spread a bit of knowledge and in the process - a bit of security for people. Happy side effect is that my students who actually do the work and work at it... are happier and less stressed!!!!!
How cool is that?

Feel free to apply appreciation in the form of karma--always happily accepted.

Elise

He who seeks
January 11th, 2007, 08:18 AM
mmm this is a good lesson and it has helped...i seem to be able to do sheild myself agaisnt these attacks though about two days i got a dream which when i entered a door into class room of somesort a man with fur cloak and ruff barberian style look shot me with a bundle of chains with flesh hooks on them, i dont know whta happened to them next but they must of been absorbed by me or disintergrated as i moved about with no limitation against my movements..so it must have been somthing on the spiritual level..


ah remebered homework

nrrm.. i have practised over the week but i think ive been sloppy in the work....thursdays are real night mare for me at college.

All through the morning i get drain of all real energy to concerntrate on my work and feel depressed and rather hollow in emotions.

It probbaly worse today because ive just come back form holiday and forgotten the intensisty i experience, i can not tell if its my teacher or another of of my class mates, its hard to tell where it comes from.

but i am renewing myeffort to cut the threads and improve my sheild...will post later when i feel better

TheRiverDaughter
January 11th, 2007, 01:35 PM
As some of you may know, I'm in the process of getting married (16 days!), and so I've been under a lot of stress, a lot of responsibility, and a lot of excitement. People in my life who have always been friendly are now creating stress. Most of this is simply the usual stress of a major event - and grounding and shielding have been a HUGE help. (Smudging helped to clear the air out of our new apartment, keeping the stress levels down and helping both my fiance and myself.) Sadly, some people have not been willing to look past negative past relationships and have made me feel like they're sucking away the positive energy that I'm surrounding myself with at this time. Every time I see them they make nasty remarks about how this will be awful, and "oh good luck, let's see what you say in two years" - just generally hurtful things. Again this has been a shielding exercise - I just let things slide down the shields and into the earth (kind of like if you throw an egg at the wall).

Psychic Vampirism is something I've had to struggle with in the past, but fortunately right now (since I'm away from college and not yet working), I don't have to deal with anyone like that on a daily basis. It's good to know, to have the tools around to cut cords - because I know I'll run into someone else like that. I did, however, go through the cord cutting exercise - and I found, to my surprise, a few old cords from a few old energy-draining people. No more! I don't need them feeding off me anymore (: (ok - so I didn't need it when I thought we were friends either, but especially now!)

Thank you SO much for all of your work on these lessons so far - it's been a huge help - especially shielding. I have enough of my own stress right now, and I'm amazed at how well it's allowed me to continue without picking up or absorbing any of the craziness around me.

~Elise~
January 11th, 2007, 09:30 PM
Glad this is able to help you get through that time. I SOOOO remember when Rick and I went through all that about 1 1/2 years ago.

Speaking of that--we're closing on our new home tomorrow morning and then we're moving... I'm going to be out of pocket all weekend.

Maybe longer--I don't know how long it'll take for the install kit to come in the mail.

Elise

~Elise~
January 17th, 2007, 08:31 PM
New lesson going up now... we're not moved but internet is hooked up!

We're moving this weekend--so think WARM weather--NO snow, NO ice, NO rain.

Elise

~NightFire~
January 26th, 2007, 07:50 AM
I think that a description of a Psychic Vampire fits my Mum perfectly.

I'll try & explain...

I have wondered if I 'inherited' my empathy from my Mum, because she has a nack for sensing how people are feeling sometimes (especially me). But (& again, I usually get the brunt of this) she will often 'feed' off of people's emotions, & then try & 'bring them down' with pure negativity. It's like she gets a kick out of doing so, & that the more you react to it, the more she enjoys it.

I think that subconsciously, she might know that I'm an Empath, & so that's why she does it to me the most-because she knows that if she dumps her negativity on me, it will really get me down.

My Mum is not a bad person by any stretch of the imagination, & when she's not doing the above, it's great. On the surface she is a very happy, 'sorted', practical, nice (etc), person. But I know that deep down she has insecurites, & I think that she might 'feed' off of people in order to (partly) make herself feel better.

I'm not sure if I'm making much sense, but there you go...

I have been Grounding & Shielding everyday, & I think that this has helped. Last time she tried to get to me we argued, but I walked away pretty quickly, I didn't go away feeling as 'drained' as I usuallly do, & I didn't linger on it as much either.

The problem is that we both can be very stubborn & argumentative, so usually I stand there & take it whilst trying to defend myself (without a shield usually) rather than walking away, or trying to deflect her negative energy.

Obviously I need to work on that..._inabox_