Recieved a threat from a "friend"

[PandoraHealer]

over the weekend, my husband and i bought a chain saw and were going around, door to door offering to cut limbs and things for people after the ice storm. 200$ a yard. We offered a friend of ours a chance to make some $ and help.
my husband and friend did one job, and split the $ 50-50. they each got 100$....

Yesterday, i called the owner of the houses we were working on (rent houses) and got the addresses to the other houses. we went and did 2 more tonight. our friend called my husband several times and when he finally answered, the "friend" said my husband was a punk MFer and messed with the wrong person and shouldn't have gone around BEHIND HIS BACK and done all these houses....

wtf?!

I was not happy about a 50-50 split, when we are the owners of the chain saw, the owners of the truck, bought him lunch over the weekend, we're putting the gas in the truck and saw, as well as the oil, buying the extra chains, blah blah blah.... so when you subtract the gas expenses only, we're getting like 40 bucks while the friend is getting 100.... plus lunch.... somethings wrong....

now the guy is all over us saying we need to watch our backs and we had "no right" to go do those other jobs and blah blah blah.... the guy really kinda freaks me out, and thats hard to do. His tattoos and his friends tattoos and the things they talk about, bother me.... borderline gang related... but on the otherside... a "gang" of 40-50 year old men don't stand a chance against a herd of my dogs and the guns we own.... it still just freaks me out... pulling into the neighborhood, i was almost in tears by the time i came to my block, afraid i was going to pull up and see my dogs dead in the yard and my house burned to a crisp....

nothing happened to the house.... all seems ok... i'm just still nervous... i'll be home all day tomarrow alone and i'm getting up early to do some energy work and hopefully protect my house and family a little more.... i'm thinking a little more energy help would be nice so any you can spare is more than welcome and i'd much appriciate it.

thank you...

BB-PH

[Philosophia]

Sending protective, positive, and calming energy to you and your family! :hugz:

Make sure you call the police at any sign of trouble and create a record of the harassing phone calls, threats, and everything else. :hugz:

[Ferina]

Love and support. Sounds like a rough situation, not fair on you guys when all you were trying to do was help the guy out.
Some people don't know when to grow up and start acting there age. You are in the right and this guy is just being stupid. Have a phone handy at all times just in case he trys something.

[Rick]

Sending you a PM

[LadyWillow]

I'll send some energy your way tonight before bed. Good luck. If possible today, just keep a phone with you at all times just in case.

[Cat]

Protecting energy coming to you.

[Stormwt]

:hugz: psycho. Make sure you keep that chain saw handy (lol)

Seriously though - he sounds like he's a few crayons short! Just don't let him see that he's got to you and I'm sure he'll get bored of his obsession!

[SilverClaw]

Sending what energy I can :hugz:

[DreamSpell333]

Protective / calming energy sent to you. :hugz:


Your husbands "Friend" was outta line with acting the way he did. Just because you both offered for him to make some extra money, doesnt mean you had to have him help with every house!
My father does drywall and painting and sometimes will ask my brother to go and help,but there are times when my dad has only enough work for himself and doesnt ask my brother.

I hope he gets over himself and leaves you both alone.

[Lunacie]

Protection energies sent right away!

[MonSno_LeeDra]

Please don't take this wrong as it is not ment to be an attack or negative.

While I DO NOT support the manner in which the so called friend responded, your description leaves a bit of a muddy path. You stated that the job was done over the weekend and that the job was built around possibly a series of houses that appeared to be own by the same person (Group?) if they are rentals.

If you (collectively) had asked a person to assist and had spoken of looking for additional jobs for the same group or time period, then it might be taken as an implied request to assist on all the houses that would fall under the grouping. In which case the person may have assumed that he was included and to have ommitted him would be seen as a slap to the face. In many instances even the mere speculation of follow-on work can be seen as an implied continuance of assistance being asked for.

You seem to have heartburn with the division of monies yet you do not state that any of that was discussed beyond the 50 - 50 split. It is somewhat in error to think the person should assume that the cost should be born equaly if no such agreement was put in place prior to the action occuring. Yes, it would have been the correct thing to do in my opinion but with out that pre-understanding then where is the error?

In my experience most of these things start from a talk of "Monies we will make" and the anticipation of it without a base of understanding being clarified prior to the action taking place. If the "friend" had known that all operating expenses would be subtracted first then a 50 - 50 split of remaining monies might have changed the scenario. Was it clear that it would be a one time thing or an implied (or understood to be implied) guarentee to help and cash in on the golden goose.

Yes, the fall out is uncalled for and the threats a bit over the top. One would hope that a "Friend" would act differently. I do hope that everything works out for you and thier are no hard feelings from this in the long run.

[la tortuga]

:hugz: I know what you're going through. You might want to make some hot foot powder and some witch bottles for the four corners to provide a protection from unwanted visitors. We did this for the girl who was stalking my little sister and we haven't seen her since. That, accompanied by talks with the police, I feel have helped out a lot. You might want to check out the criminal history of the guy you're dealing with, too, that might help.

Most of all, I'm hoping everything will be all right!

[thought_on_a_wind]

Have you invoked your warrior aspect? Comes in handy if you get cornered. If he shows up, don't provoke things, but don't back down. Be stern (within reason), steel yourself, hope for the best and prepare for the worst...

Seems like that dude might be on drugs.. tweeker maybe? Either way, you've got some protective energy from me. Hope it works out.

[thought_on_a_wind]

Don't forget those famous words from Dune.

"Fear is the mind-killer"

[Amilee]

Oh my darling. :hugz: I'm sending you some protective energy. I hope that nothing comes of it.

It's probably just a big misunderstanding. :hugz:

Record the harassment for sure though.

[Xentor]

How did this situation work out, PandoraHealer? It's been 3 weeks...

[aluokaloo]

what an ingrate! I would pull the rug out from under his feet (stop helping him) and break ties with him, energy sent for protection and a cooling down of the situation