Repeating theme of dreams

[Sequoia]

I'm not sure what to make of this.

Many months ago, a group of friends and myself had a major falling out. Things just boom, ended. And a lot of people I cared deeply for ended up being. . err. . . rather vengeful, saying some horrible things.

At any rate, one of them in particular, I loved very dearly, like a father to me.

I keep dreaming about him. And it's driving me insane.

I've had two or three dreams now, where he forgave me, missed me. . . where we made up, and things were all right again. (how I wish these hadn't just been a dream). I can't remember if there was a certain cercomstance in my daily life to trigger them, just that they've happened more than once. I had one last night, it woke me up early, and try as I might I can't get it out of my head. (this is usually the case for a while)

so here's my most poignant question: do these dreams mean he really has forgiven me, misses me, and wishes bygones were bygones? Or is it simply my subconsious wishing away?

:huh: :(

[Raevyn]

You'd have to ask him (the person you want to forgive and forget with) :D

I know that's not helpful. But it's hard to say! Maybe it just means that you should forgive yourself and try to find peace.

[Flar's Freyja]

The Indians say that the dreams we remember are the dreams we are to act upon.

Perhaps it means that you are supposed to make the first move.

[Morgandria]

Puma - I'm in a very similar situation, including the dreams. And as was suggested, I attempted to act on them. I was quite harshly snubbed on my overtures...so considered the matter closed, with regret. Yet I still have the dreams. I don't know what to do...or if there's anything to be done.

-M.

[Sequoia]

I would try to make the first moves- except with my luck, the least I'd get hit with would be being ignored, but the most would be somewhere along the lines of a restraining order. -_-;;;

I don't know if acting on it would be a good thing. I just want to stop having the dreams, and let myself forget.

[Flar's Freyja]

It's possible, then, that the dreams are your guides' way of helping you work through it and forget without actually having to contact him.

Some suggestions: You could meditate and visualize yourself talking with him, saying all of the things that you would like to say. Or, you could write him a letter that you do not intend to mail. You could burn it or bury it or otherwise place it for safekeeping.

When we sincerely apologize or make amends to someone and they refuse to accept it, you are no longer responsible.

[crystalblue_orchid]

sorry but it might be that it is probably just wishfull thinking, thats my experiance with dreams most of the time anyway *shrugs*