Cusp

[Spirahl]

When someone is born near a cusp, do you think they have a blended personality of two signs, or do you think exact time of birth makes them entirely one sign or the other?
I'm Aquarian with an Aries moon and rising, my hubby is a Sagitarius and most of the time we are great, but then he gets in these MOODS and no matter what I do, it's the wrong thing. His emotional intensity at these times seems very Scorpian, and I've always had difficulty getting along with Scorpios. They have a real hard time with my inconsistencies, and I take their sharpness too much to heart. Hubby was born on a Nov 22nd, but we'll never know his birth time, he was adopted. Sorry to any Scorpios reading this...please don't sting me!;)

[Litha]

His emotions/moods are more the province of his Moon sign, and you mention that his birthtime is unknown, he may even really be a Scorpio Moon.....a professional astrologer can use the date of birth and do a consultation with you and your husband to rectify the brithtime. Basically you would talk about important things in his past and the astrologer would check to see how the tranisits and progressions fell into place that correlated with how the planets were aligned on his birthdate.
You could also check if his Moon is in the 7th house, which would affect his emotions in his primary relationship. Perhaps his Moon is conjuct Mars, which would certainly lend intensity to his feelings.
My own sweetiebooboo has a Sag Asc and he hates to be wrong.
hates it. It's good that he rarely is! (Right, Honey? heheehehee!)

btw, is your husband's Sun on a cusp?

[Spirahl]

I think his sun is on or near a cusp- November 22nd, that's near the cusps of Sag and Scorpio right? Most people just see a very Sagitarian him which is very fun-loving, sometimes a little rowdy (which suits his red hair too). But people who are close to him, just me and his family, know this other side that seems to comes out when he's stressed. He thinks the whole world is against him and really gets in a rage. Instead of coming to me for support, he treats me like the enemy. This is a total 180 degrees from his "normal" behaviour and catches me off guard. I'm just trying to understand it so I can deal with it better. The Aquarian part of me just wants to walk away and not deal with such "childishness"- this makes him angrier- I understand, by being "cold" and condesending. The Aries part of me eventually takes over and then we have two firey tempers instead of one! Which is also the wrong way to deal with it.
Yes, this could be his moon and not that he was born near the cusp...am I correct in assuming that these are Scorpio traits or would you attribute this to another sign? We all have our skeletons...

[Selenia]

Actually Scorpionic anger is behavior that completely corresponds to the person being angry, not something that would catch a loved one off guard. An angry scorpio is more prone to analyzing a situation, putting a scheme forth in which to enact retribution and not cause and huge dramatic blowup.
Then again, paranoia, you're the enemy, kind of reactivity is certainly Scorpionic in nature. My bestest friend and her beau are both Scorpios and when they fight, watchout!

[mol]

LOL.

I have so much to learn about astrology. Because I have no idea what you all are talking about. Hahaha.

[Spirahl]

There are times that he deals with his stress in what I would see as a Sagitarian way, he'll go to the gym, go for a run, or just go to the river where he grew up and have a talk with The Mother. This I see as very positive.
He does get very "paranoid" when this other side comes out! He gets in this "conspiracy theory" frame of mind- starts going on about the government having the phones tapped, how sattalites are watching his every move, that "they" have the whole of the public brainwashed, and I'm weak because I've been suckered into it all...bizzare. Everything is somebody elses fault, and if there's no one else to blame, blame the government! It's not that I see the government as a blameless entity mind you, but hey...what does this have to do with our personal lives, our communication problems, our relationship?
So now I am trying (since someone else agrees that this is Scorpian-type behaviour), to try and understand this type of emotion. What is the source of this type of emotional behaviour in Scorpios? It is a tendency only, so what is the most effective way to deal with it? It is so foreign to my own types of feelings...I'm stumbling in the dark, just trying to understand...

[Armitage]

Originally posted by Selenia
Then again, paranoia, you're the enemy, kind of reactivity is certainly Scorpionic in nature.


Oh gods! That sounds like me.... -_-;

[Spirahl]

Armitage- hi! I was wondering if you were just joking, but then I see on your profile that you are a Scorpio!
If it's not too personal, don't feel that you have to answer...I just want to better understand.
Where do these emotions come from? Subconsciously, what do you think could be the motivating factor? Do you think in these moments that there is a certain approach that another person could take to calm you? Is it usually a reaction to something specific that someone says or does? Is it all internal? Is it a feeling of not being understood, or insecurity, or literally just stress that builds up? What sorts of things make you feel secure, relaxed and loved?
Sorry if this sounds nosy, it's just something that I'm sure you will understand is very important to me. It's awful to have poor communication in a relationship and I'm just trying to see things from his view.

[Mairwen]

:rolleyes: My eldest son (close to 12) is a Scorpio (10/28/89). Today he was at my mom's and lost his retainer. He blamed my mom! He said it was her fault because she made him hold the mail (for the entire length of the driveway). :rolleyes: The retainer has been found (I ddin't ask where!), but we still haven't figured out why it was my mom's fault. LOL!8O

[Spirahl]

:eek: :D :eek:
I'm in deep trouble here...seems there's no cure and I'll have to learn to laugh it off somehow...:crazy: :D :crazy:

[Spirahl]

I just read the newsletter...
Thanks to the woman with many names, the article on anger management was most timely!:)

[Litha]

Hmm, as your husband ages, the cycles of planets in his chart move forward and he himself will change; you seem to be so wonderfully loving and supportive.
Since we do not know his true Ascendant, we have no way of finding out out how his progressions will alter as time goes on.

[Spirahl]

He's getting worse, having a breakdown. Going through a lot of bad stuff all at once. Recently been working through some "dark" issues with myself, learning to accept this as the balance of life. I guess I need to accept his darkness as well. It's just scary his anger, when I have been previously in an unhealthy relationship. It's not gone too overboard, but it always scares me as a possibility.

[peaceluvr]

[I am very interested in the special effects of being born on a cusp. My husband and I are both cusp babies, me aquarius/pisces (02-19), hubby scorpio/saggitarius (11-20). I am technically pisces and proud of it, but do have many of the aquarius qualities. Same is true of my scorpio guy. It is like mix and match for us, you read both signs and think yeah this is true, but this trait is completely wrong. Example, he, the scorpio, is supposed to be the tight fisted one with money, and me the hole in pocket type, but we are totally reversed on that one!!??? I once found a website especially for cusp babies but can't for the life of me remember where is was. Try search web for CUSP BABIES. It gives a completely personalized and very accurate (I thought) reading which blends the two signs. However, someone else said and was right, that all signs and planets affect us. This is true, but your sun sign is one to pay special attention to as it represents your true inner self and utmost hearts desires. :huddle: COLOR=MediumTurquoise][FONT=Arial]

[Kadynas]

Wow, is this an old thread! :lol: As far as the cusp goes, I'm technically on the Aries/Taurus cusp myself... I've found that a lot of times that people born on the cusp will act like the cusp sign due to other planets in the chart. For example, every planet in the solar system is in your chart... The sun, the sign you tell by your birthday, is either one sign or the other; the exact time when the Sun switches signs varies from year to year. So if you're Aquarius but feel more like a Pisces, you probably have Pisces planets in your chart or a strong Neptune (ruler of Pisces) to back that up. Also since Mercury and Venus cannot be far from the sun, chances are they are either in your sun sign or the sign before it or after it. I'm an Aries, but I also have Venus in Taurus... the Taurus traits that so up in me probably have a lot more to do with my Venus than being born on the cusp. :) RedRose is doing mini-readings... if you go to that thread and post your info, I'm sure she'd give you some good information. Or you can go to astro.com to get a free chart drawn up. :)