Ilasha
February 9th, 2004, 06:42 PM
Hey Everyone,
I desperately need some help. I've known this guy for 12 years -- friends only...he had moved back to Toledo and was coming down every other weekend to see his kids...
(Soon to be) Former wife (ex-best friend of mine) is being psycho-b***h in ways that surprises even me... Tells Jeff that since he's living out of state that she is going to file for full custody of the kids.
Jeff decides to not go back to Toledo but to move back, calls up to his brother and tells him to empty out his bank account and his him his credit cards so he can find an apartment.
His bother ACTUALLLY sends though the mail....in a regular envelope a $12,000 and a credit card with a $50,000 limit on it....
Moron...
Meanwhile....Jeff is camped out on my couch...which was supposed to be for one or two nights....turned out to be 10...
You have to understand, I don't have savings or credit cards...I don't have money ...period....I work three jobs to make ends meet...one of them and perhaps the most productive is Ebay.
Jeff gave me his word that as soon as the money got down here that he would pay me back and then some. The letter never got here.
By now I have checks bouncing....including to student loans...I wasn't able to pay for two of my auctions...didn't even have the money to mail out some of the auctions to my buyers....and this is like the week before Christmas...so....people are complaining... I can't get my Christmas shopping even remotely finished and of all things....my computer monitor blows on me...
Yeah....it's been fun....
And still....nothing comes in the mail...
Jeff calls his bother and tells him to bring some money down to him.... He tells him that he is on his way Friday afternoon....but stops in Columbus...meets a woman in a bar...and.....never makes it down here....
So I give Jeff the last $75 that I have so that he can get back up to Toledo to figure out what the hell is going on. He leaves SWEARING to me that he'll set everything straight.
Of course I don't hear anything out of him...
January second....I get home from a 12 hour shift to find him sitting in my driveway. He wants to take me out to get something to eat... So a grab a shower...and we go to the only place that's open where you can still get a drink... For two hours...I say nothing....listening to him go on about how he came back here on the 26th...picked up his kids....went back to Toledo and spoiled them rotten with all of the gifts that he bought for them. I get to hear about his Christmas...and even the spite gift that he bought for his ex-wife... And not once was I asked...how was your Christmas...did you do anything for New Year's? How was your day...
So finally I got enough Jaeger in me that I snapped at him...and reminded him of all of the money that was owed...
Well I got apologies up one side and down the other. As soon as the bank opened on Monday he would go and get me my money. Which I told him that I had to have because for my birthday I was going to Lexington the next day to get my hair cut...
So he offered...let me take you to Lexington, pay for your haircut and take you out to dinner for your birthday...it's the least I can do. So we did.
Now...while I was getting my haircut...Jeff walked about a block down to a bar....and how he got that drunk in 45 minutes I'll never know. But he wanted to go back...and foolishly at the time I didn't realize how bad he was. He got back to the bar and started drinking...and he was looking for a fight...
Now knowing that Jeff's kids mean more to him than anything...I wasn't going to let that happen...because in Lexington...they will arrest you in a heartbeat for stuff like that. So I literally wedged my self in between them and pulled him out of the bar.
So naturally he got all upset at me because I disrespected him. I was just trying to get home....but hell Grayson is only an hour and a half away. But I've got the keys...I'm driving...and he's yelling at me calling me everything but a milk cow...telling me to get out of his truck. Which I wouldn't.... He literally tried to pull me out of the drivers seat while I was driving...so violently that I have several bruises on my arms and legs. He told me that he was going to report it as stolen...and as soon as we pulled up to a stop light he jumped out and went over to a convenient store....so I turned around and went back.
Fortunately there was a lady cop fueling up (please note, aspect of the Goddess looking out for me). Still I wasn't going to say anything...didn't want him to get into trouble. But when he came out I rolled the window down and told him that if he wanted to report the car as stolen to feel free to walk over and get to police now and we would get it settled right then.
Instead he got in the truck...and contained to yell at me at the top of his voice for another half hour.
Then his mood changed...suddenly I was the most wonderful person in the world to him... FINALLY he passed out about 20 minutes later....
I got back to my house and he woke up...he was still in his lovable mood....and I told him...the couch or your truck....your choice.... He passed out on the couch and was gone before I got up the next morning...
Haven't heard from him since... Which in a way is really making angry...because it isn't bad enough that I have to deal with the physical and emotional bruises...but the financial aftermath as well.
My Ebay account has been shut down...people are leaving were leaving me negative feedback, I have checks out, my auto insurance is due as well as my taxes and licensing, phone bill and student loans. Which I would have covered if I hadn't tried to stop and help him out.
I've got stuff that I could put on Ebay...but I can't because it's shut down...I had conventions that I was going to go to this month to make some extra money...can't do that either...and I've got 10 days left of my medication before I'm out of antidepressants.
Guys, I really…REALLY need some help. Jeff was an ass and there’s no excuse for it…there’s no doubt about that. And let me be clear that I’m NOT someone who will stay in an abusive relationship. But I need him to come and reconcile his differences and maintain the promises that he made to me. I can’t begin to tell you how much is riding on this and it’s incredibly time sensitive.
I am a forgiving and compassionate woman however when I get this worked up over something, I can’t do spell work on it…I’m too close to the situation. Any energies that you can send or lit candles would be more than appreciated.
Thanks SO much,
Ilasha
I desperately need some help. I've known this guy for 12 years -- friends only...he had moved back to Toledo and was coming down every other weekend to see his kids...
(Soon to be) Former wife (ex-best friend of mine) is being psycho-b***h in ways that surprises even me... Tells Jeff that since he's living out of state that she is going to file for full custody of the kids.
Jeff decides to not go back to Toledo but to move back, calls up to his brother and tells him to empty out his bank account and his him his credit cards so he can find an apartment.
His bother ACTUALLLY sends though the mail....in a regular envelope a $12,000 and a credit card with a $50,000 limit on it....
Moron...
Meanwhile....Jeff is camped out on my couch...which was supposed to be for one or two nights....turned out to be 10...
You have to understand, I don't have savings or credit cards...I don't have money ...period....I work three jobs to make ends meet...one of them and perhaps the most productive is Ebay.
Jeff gave me his word that as soon as the money got down here that he would pay me back and then some. The letter never got here.
By now I have checks bouncing....including to student loans...I wasn't able to pay for two of my auctions...didn't even have the money to mail out some of the auctions to my buyers....and this is like the week before Christmas...so....people are complaining... I can't get my Christmas shopping even remotely finished and of all things....my computer monitor blows on me...
Yeah....it's been fun....
And still....nothing comes in the mail...
Jeff calls his bother and tells him to bring some money down to him.... He tells him that he is on his way Friday afternoon....but stops in Columbus...meets a woman in a bar...and.....never makes it down here....
So I give Jeff the last $75 that I have so that he can get back up to Toledo to figure out what the hell is going on. He leaves SWEARING to me that he'll set everything straight.
Of course I don't hear anything out of him...
January second....I get home from a 12 hour shift to find him sitting in my driveway. He wants to take me out to get something to eat... So a grab a shower...and we go to the only place that's open where you can still get a drink... For two hours...I say nothing....listening to him go on about how he came back here on the 26th...picked up his kids....went back to Toledo and spoiled them rotten with all of the gifts that he bought for them. I get to hear about his Christmas...and even the spite gift that he bought for his ex-wife... And not once was I asked...how was your Christmas...did you do anything for New Year's? How was your day...
So finally I got enough Jaeger in me that I snapped at him...and reminded him of all of the money that was owed...
Well I got apologies up one side and down the other. As soon as the bank opened on Monday he would go and get me my money. Which I told him that I had to have because for my birthday I was going to Lexington the next day to get my hair cut...
So he offered...let me take you to Lexington, pay for your haircut and take you out to dinner for your birthday...it's the least I can do. So we did.
Now...while I was getting my haircut...Jeff walked about a block down to a bar....and how he got that drunk in 45 minutes I'll never know. But he wanted to go back...and foolishly at the time I didn't realize how bad he was. He got back to the bar and started drinking...and he was looking for a fight...
Now knowing that Jeff's kids mean more to him than anything...I wasn't going to let that happen...because in Lexington...they will arrest you in a heartbeat for stuff like that. So I literally wedged my self in between them and pulled him out of the bar.
So naturally he got all upset at me because I disrespected him. I was just trying to get home....but hell Grayson is only an hour and a half away. But I've got the keys...I'm driving...and he's yelling at me calling me everything but a milk cow...telling me to get out of his truck. Which I wouldn't.... He literally tried to pull me out of the drivers seat while I was driving...so violently that I have several bruises on my arms and legs. He told me that he was going to report it as stolen...and as soon as we pulled up to a stop light he jumped out and went over to a convenient store....so I turned around and went back.
Fortunately there was a lady cop fueling up (please note, aspect of the Goddess looking out for me). Still I wasn't going to say anything...didn't want him to get into trouble. But when he came out I rolled the window down and told him that if he wanted to report the car as stolen to feel free to walk over and get to police now and we would get it settled right then.
Instead he got in the truck...and contained to yell at me at the top of his voice for another half hour.
Then his mood changed...suddenly I was the most wonderful person in the world to him... FINALLY he passed out about 20 minutes later....
I got back to my house and he woke up...he was still in his lovable mood....and I told him...the couch or your truck....your choice.... He passed out on the couch and was gone before I got up the next morning...
Haven't heard from him since... Which in a way is really making angry...because it isn't bad enough that I have to deal with the physical and emotional bruises...but the financial aftermath as well.
My Ebay account has been shut down...people are leaving were leaving me negative feedback, I have checks out, my auto insurance is due as well as my taxes and licensing, phone bill and student loans. Which I would have covered if I hadn't tried to stop and help him out.
I've got stuff that I could put on Ebay...but I can't because it's shut down...I had conventions that I was going to go to this month to make some extra money...can't do that either...and I've got 10 days left of my medication before I'm out of antidepressants.
Guys, I really…REALLY need some help. Jeff was an ass and there’s no excuse for it…there’s no doubt about that. And let me be clear that I’m NOT someone who will stay in an abusive relationship. But I need him to come and reconcile his differences and maintain the promises that he made to me. I can’t begin to tell you how much is riding on this and it’s incredibly time sensitive.
I am a forgiving and compassionate woman however when I get this worked up over something, I can’t do spell work on it…I’m too close to the situation. Any energies that you can send or lit candles would be more than appreciated.
Thanks SO much,
Ilasha