Tzhebee
February 12th, 2004, 06:05 PM
In Dec my grandfather went in for bypass surgery. He came out of surgery just fine and then coded and hour later in recovery. Having never been particularly close to him, I was sad, but I think more so for my dad. My daughter; however, has not taken it well. She came home from school (2nd grade) yesterday with her Valentine. This year, instead of being addressed to me or daddy, it was addressed to her family. She had a huge white heart with a smaller red heart. Then she traced her hand with open fingers and folded over the middle two fingers (I love you) and pasted the hand in the middle. Here's what she wrote:
To my family. I love you. And I love Grandpa. About a month ago my Grandpa died. My family cried. I cried so hard I almost made myself sick. I miss my Grandpa.
I found out last month that my great grandmother (mother weese) is in what we hope are her final days. She has been in a nursing home for the past 15+ years due to physical disabilities and the onset of altzheimers. Last night, as we were discussing death Devin asked me if Mother Weese was dead yet. I tried to explain to her, using the analogy of an old toy that breaks, that sometimes people's body's break. And those people are in a lot of pain, and that sometimes to die is best for them. Well, Mother Weese has wasted away to 70 lbs, cannot even open her eyes much less take in fluids. IV's do not work as her veins keep colapsing. Our family has chosen to take no futher medical "support" other than medicine to ease her pain. But she is 3000 miles away from me, so we are unable to see her.
I'm asking for any energy, prayers, etc. that you can give to help my daughter cope with the loss of her grandfather and the understanding that when Mother Weese goes, it is better for her than how she is now. Being as sensitive as my daughter is, she will feel them and I'm sure they will help.
If any of you have suggestions for how I can help her, they are most appreciated.
Blessed Be
To my family. I love you. And I love Grandpa. About a month ago my Grandpa died. My family cried. I cried so hard I almost made myself sick. I miss my Grandpa.
I found out last month that my great grandmother (mother weese) is in what we hope are her final days. She has been in a nursing home for the past 15+ years due to physical disabilities and the onset of altzheimers. Last night, as we were discussing death Devin asked me if Mother Weese was dead yet. I tried to explain to her, using the analogy of an old toy that breaks, that sometimes people's body's break. And those people are in a lot of pain, and that sometimes to die is best for them. Well, Mother Weese has wasted away to 70 lbs, cannot even open her eyes much less take in fluids. IV's do not work as her veins keep colapsing. Our family has chosen to take no futher medical "support" other than medicine to ease her pain. But she is 3000 miles away from me, so we are unable to see her.
I'm asking for any energy, prayers, etc. that you can give to help my daughter cope with the loss of her grandfather and the understanding that when Mother Weese goes, it is better for her than how she is now. Being as sensitive as my daughter is, she will feel them and I'm sure they will help.
If any of you have suggestions for how I can help her, they are most appreciated.
Blessed Be