have you ever had your heart ripped out

[draidoir]

has there ever been a time where everything in your live was lost and you didn't know where to turn, or have no one to turn to?

[Flaire-FireStar]

Yup.

Happened just tonight.

[Goddess Rhiannon]

Yes sweetie. My heart has been ripped out of my ass. It hurts like hell...but talking about it....does help....and we are all here for you.

[AquariusWolf]

:sadeyes: Oh yes! I have cried myself to sleep many times. We are here for you if you need to talk:hugz:

[~*Ginger*~]

yes....


And then the most amazing thing happens.
It grows back bigger, better & stronger!
:hugz:

[Fairywolf]

Yes. But I am still here and better off I believe. :) If you need someone to talk to we are here or you can always PM me. :hugz:

P.S. Welcome to MW :)

[turtlerain46]

Yeah made the mistake of falling for my male best friend, (OUch) But hey what doesn't kill us makes us stronger doesn't it.

[Desdemona]

Oh yes. It hurts like hell, and it feels like your world is ending. You have no reason to go on. But you know what? You do. Because you don't know everything that is going to happen yet.

Just get through the night. We are here for you. :hugz:

[Hoot]

draidoir :hugz: I sure have.

And for Sapphy, too :hugz:

[Old Witch]

Yep........

[Xander67]

mine hurts from being alone..

[~*Ginger*~]

mine hurts from being alone..

:hugz: I know the feeling...

I'd touch your karma, but... Ijust ran out.:hugz:

[Desert_Yaqui]

mine hurts from being alone..

big :hugz: for you Xander67.... I know this is ironic but sometimes when you have someone--there are times when you can still find yourself very much alone ... been there, done that.

[Thistle]

Oh, yes. More than once. :hugz:

[Mau]

Yup. I can honestly say there have been at least three times where I've said "I want to be done now. I dont' want to live this life anymore" and truely meant it. Where everyhting seems messed up beyond repair, you've lost things you feel you can never get back (and it isn't always just the loss of the things..but the loss of the feelings you got from said things that makes it hurt so bad), and it seems like no matter what you do..nothing will ever be any better. What did I do, nothing. I stopped dwelling on the bad (no matter how numerous or big) got up and started moving again. You really only have two choices, give up and and leave this life...or find a way to go on and fight.
In a way, I think I have figured out suicide. It's like dropping out of school and going home. You're here to learn something, a lesson for your soul. I think it's a subconcious natural reaction to want to get out of here and go 'home' when life's too tough. The only thing is, if you cut out early and don't complete the lesson, you can't get born back into the life you have to live to obtain the knowledge you're here to gain this time at the same stage you left in. You're just going to have to get born again, grow up, live through the same things all over, and get back to where you were when you gave up last time..and then finish from there. I wouldnt' want to go through everything I already have all over again. So I chose to finish my life, learn the lesson my soul needs..and hope my next life will be better and rewarding. If you get dealt terrible hands in life, it's for a reason and just try to keep in mind that if you honestly couldn't handle it, if you truely couldnt' get through it and be wiser for it....it wouldnt' be happening. Somewhere deep down, you do have the ability and strength to get through it all and somewhere somehow, find happiness.

[turtlerain46]

mine hurts from being alone..
You know I used to think that all I wanted in the whole world was a loving relationship. Then I guess something in my brain clicked. Now the last thing I want is a relationship. I guess it's just that I have so many things I want to accomplish that in my mind a relationship would tie me down to much, and prevent me from really doing all the things I want to. It's weird though cuz I used to spend so much time thinking about it that now it's been hard to really get used to not wanting it. Hmmm, you notice how we always want something we don't have and once we have it we don't want it. Why can't we just be happy where we are????

[Athena-Nadine]

Yes. Many, many times. And most of them had absolutely nothing to do with a romantic relationship.

[Mab]

yes. :wah2:

[dragonkin]

Yep! Am doing the alone thing right now.

[Heathen Dawn]

mine hurts from being alone..

Same here. :(

[Morr]

My heart has been ripped in & out on more then one occassion..
But I will say that I managed to pull out of it every time and I found that I grew as a person & learned new things about myself. I wouldnt be the person I am today if I wouldnt have gone through these bad experiences.
I will tell you though that - things happen for a reason. And these reasons and things lead you to a much better place in the end.
Believe me - One day you'll look back at this experience and realize that if it wouldnt have happened, you'd be in a very different place and a very different person. And most of the times - you'll be thankful it happend and that you've turned out to be who you are and where you are.

Michelle

[WitchJezebel]

Yes, several times. But I learned from it and healed myself. Know that you can heal from this, the pain goes away with time and you will be the stronger for it. :hugz:

[Avalon]

My heart has been stomped on so many times (for various reasons, not all romantic) that I don't think I'll ever be able to love anyone.

[Hoot]

Avalon :hugz:

I used to feel that way, but most particularly... that no one could ever love me. Seems that I was wrong in thinking that, I'm now happy to report. I hope that you are, too, sweetie.

[jodarius]

i have had it done many times, i have fallen for my best female friend, and was told by someone that she was falling for me, but i wasn't the one she wanted. the second one i am still in love with, and we are currently best friends, but every time i hold her or we cuddle it is like my heart is breaking all over cause i know she isn't mine. but i still would never trade it all in, and i still get up every morning, because it always has a chance to brighten up. so be strong and know we all are pullin for you.

[Kahlan]

mine hurts from being alone..

Xander your not alone, not really...you have tons of love here. I love you and you know your one of my best friends on and off MW. :hugz: :smoochypo

[greenwitch]

oh yes I have. many times. and by my own mother at that. It's not fun, it really isnt. But you'll realize that after all the pain subsides- you've become the person that people come to for help, because you know what its like. If you're the kind of person who enjoys helping others- then its very rewarding to know what you're talking about. I know that you dont want to think about it now, all you can think of is the hurt for the moment. but I promise you that scars do heal, and fade away... and the pain goes with it. You just have to want to let it go...

Brightest Blessings and Love,
Adra

[Bainidhe Dub]

Twice. The first time, I fell (hard) for my best guy friend. Even though he'd also fallen for me, things didn't work out the way we planned. I still love him beyond words.

The second time was two years ago, when my husband ripped my heart out, threw it on the ground and danced on it. I think right now, going through all of this, my heart's in ICU.

[Laurelei]

My heart hasn't been ripped out, probably because it's not there half the time. There are things that happen to me which would really beat a lot of people down, but I just try to dismiss it and not dwell on it. I admit (and I rarely admit it- because otherwise it'll defy the whole point, you're getting a rare insight here) people can't stand me, they discriminate because I'm so chilled out it frightens them- and I know that's why it scares them. They sit, miserable with their lives, and they see me, so much uglier, so much less popular than they are, and I don't care, and they're afraid. It took me a long time to work out that, but I did, from discussions with dozens of people. They see me with more spots than a pizza, rings under my eyes, five feet tall, an unnaturally low voice and long lank hair like Samara from The Ring and they see I still love myself.

I accept the fact that I'll probably not have a boyfriend for a good few years, though I admit that sometimes it hurts. There's an extreme lack of eligible Goths... or boys with any personality round these parts.

[Traz Heart]

(moves head back and forth)

What is love oh baby don't hurt me don't hurt me no more..



Yup heart ripped out yes.

worth it Yes...

wouldn't be the person I am today with out that happeneing and wouldn't know what love truely is.

Because at that time I had idea what love was and should be and now I have the full picture because I found that one person who truly loves me the same way I love her.

[CloakofStars9]

big :hugz: for you Xander67.... I know this is ironic but sometimes when you have someone--there are times when you can still find yourself very much alone ... been there, done that.

AMEN SISTA been there done that as well and wont ever again

for me it's better to be by yourself then utterly alone with someone else

[Calyx]

AMEN SISTA been there done that as well and wont ever again

for me it's better to be by yourself then utterly alone with someone else

I agree with that one, hon...sort of sad to say.....:hugz:

[Druchii]

I think everyone has stuff like having your heart ripped out happen. It always feels like you are never going to be the same. I still remember breaking up with my first girlfreind. It had been a LOOONGG and developmental realtionship. My first one. I was 19. (High school was lonely for this gamer goth geek) :rolleyes: , but, here I am almost 11 years later, and it got better. It really did. Granted, it helped that along the way I got smarter and wiser. Like for instance, I know enough to know that I know nothing about women. :) No, seriously, it gets better. And you know what? It's probably thier loss. Hang in there.

[Teshuva3D]

draidoir...

Ah, seems like the "heart ripped out syndrome" is pretty darn common...
I've been having my share of mood swings and depression lately..wondering if my life will ever renew itself again after my divorce...feeling like there aren't going to be any more opportunities for companionship or happiness in my life EVER again..that this last marriage has just about used me up spiritually and emotionally...

We all know it's silly to feel that way..there are ALWAYS going to be more opportunities for joy if we seek them...and are smart enough to see joy in forms we weren't expecting..
Anyway, was feeling blue tonight...and just now got here and saw this thread almost first thing!!!
Funny how the universe gives us these little coincidences...hmmmm...
So,even though this conversation was started because of your broken heart..(which I'm so sorry to hear about your pain,draidoir)...I bet I'm not the only one in here who has gotten some comfort from reading the advice and sharing in this thread...so thank you...
:huddle:
Many Blessings,
Tesh

[draidoir]

Thank you all for listening to my problem i enjoyed the replys :hehehehe: