Need strength to overcome..

[Nissala]

I know this may seem trivial to some, but it is a real problem for me. As most of you know my husband and I sperated in October. We had been seeing each other off and on since them, until about 3 weeks ago. He now has another he "talks" to and for some reason I am jealous, and I don't know why? He did have an affair while we were together which broke my trust in him. I am the one who left, why can I not get over him...let him go? I need strength to find a way to finally get him out of my life for good, but the thought hurts. I am so confused. I know what my head is telling me but my heart still wants to always give him the benefit of the doubt. As long as I am busy, he does not cross my mind, but once he is in there...seems he stays a while. Am this obsession? co-dependency? or am I just crazy......please help..:(

[Hoot]

(((Nissala))) Maybe you're just "looking back" a little because even though he's not who you want in your life anymore, it's more comforting to think of him still being there for you? And after all you did love him once (and probably still do love some things about him) - I don't usually find that so easy to ignore when I try to move on.

Lots of love and energy for strength to keep going toward all the changes you want in bettering your life.

[Eowyn]

*sends strenght enegry* I'll send you here some strenght enegry to get over him *ohh... that sounded harsh but it wasnt meant to*

I wish you all the luck

[Nissala]

Thank you Hoot and Eowyn, I really apreciate your words and support.

Hoot, no I am not over him, I thought I was but we spent quite a bit of time together last month due to a situation with my truck, and feelings came flooding back. Now that my children and I are no longer there he seems to have returned to the man I first fell in love with. the "what-ifs" come flooding back.....thank you for your words so truely spoken.

Eowyn, that is the energy I need, I want to let him go and "get over him" so I can go on with re-building my life once again...thank you.

[Mayru]

I hope you can forget him, he will only bring you pain. Its normal that this is hard for you, because you loved him. I say time is your best friend, and distance will help too, you can maintain a civil relationship, but that dosent mean you have to be friends for a while. After you have time to heal then a friendship could be pssible. but for now, it will only make it more difficult. Also try and get on with your life, i dont mean just to start seeing anyone... Go out with your single friends, be with your family, work hard, take up a hobby, STAY BUSY!
Hope everything goes well.
*lots of strength and love*

[SacredWithin]

I know this may seem trivial to some, but it is a real problem for me. As most of you know my husband and I sperated in October. We had been seeing each other off and on since them, until about 3 weeks ago. He now has another he "talks" to and for some reason I am jealous, and I don't know why? He did have an affair while we were together which broke my trust in him. I am the one who left, why can I not get over him...let him go? I need strength to find a way to finally get him out of my life for good, but the thought hurts. I am so confused. I know what my head is telling me but my heart still wants to always give him the benefit of the doubt. As long as I am busy, he does not cross my mind, but once he is in there...seems he stays a while. Am this obsession? co-dependency? or am I just crazy......please help..:(

I think you should tackle the reasons why you wanted him in the first place? Was it for comfort? was it to please him? Was it for security?

I think after you find out why you really wanted him in the first place, perhaps you'll know what to do from then.

*sending energy of comfort and strength.*