I need serious help with this dream!

[dollwithouteyes_04]

Let me start out by telling you all some background to the dream.

I have a friend who lost her baby last year (he was stillborn). I had my son the month before so it really hurt me to know that she lost her son. I go out to the cemetary a lot to visit with her son. I find peace there. My friend is now pregnant again and in a few weeks time, she will be having a little girl.

Last night, I had a dream that we (my boyfriend, his friend, and myself) were walking through an old cemetary where the stones just barely stuck out of the ground. We wondered why the stones were like this and kept on walking. Before long, we were in the cemetary that my friend's baby is buried at. Like I do on many occassions, I walked up to his stone and meditated for a moment or so. Then, I walked around to the back of the rock and found myself in a tent with a bunch of flowers and a swing. In the swing sat my friend's dead baby (as if he was a baby-doll). I just stood there looking at this beautiful baby... then I woke up!

I have a dream book and I look in it for guidance. It said that if the dead person was someone you knew, they were coming back.. not to haunt you but to help you or give you guidance... possibly understanding. The whole problem is that the baby was stillborn. What guidance could he possibly give me? Yes, I saw pictures of him that were taken right after she gave birth. And I feel as if I knew the baby personally.

My only assumption thus far is that something terrible is either going to happen or did happen to her baby girl she is carrying now. She told me last week that the doctors are going to go ahead and induce her labor because the baby was not getting enough food. She also said something about the baby only being like 5 pounds so they will probably have to take her to the LeBourner Medical Center in Memphis for about a month or so until she gets big enough to live without nourishment tubes.

Could her dead son possibly be telling me that I need to comfort his mom? Could his sister be dead as well? I always told my friend that if she needed me; I'd be there for her, but this dream has made me very weary.. not of my friend.. but of the situation.

What should I do??

[Hamelyn]

I'll do what I can. *hug*

A lot of people mix images of life and death: it depends on whether their subconscious is more preoccupied with the ending of one lifestyle or the beginning of another. It's no biggie.

The other stuff does seem to transcend mere imagery, which I think you know already. If this IS the spirit of the first child, coming for sympathetic reasons, it seems clear to me that this goes along the supporting your friend theory. I don't throw in for that "chosen to help the dead" thing like I see on television a lot, but if there is a problem with the child, the mother may not be willing to consider the darker possibilities. Which is understandable. It might also explain why the child "came" to you instead.

I wouldn't make any assumptions at this point. Modern science isn't perfect but it can do a lot, and this baby may very well be alive and continue living. Life presupposed heredity, and I doubt the spirit world cares that much if the first child was stillborn or not in terms of it still being around.

I don't understand why you're so wary of the situation, Doll. The only thing I can guess is that it's a complex situation. If this is your friend, regardless of how things go, don't you think that the best thing to do is support her no matter how it goes?

I'm sorry if that doesn't help very much. You could try asking the first child directly, maybe? If anyone else has better input on this, please jump in.

[dollwithouteyes_04]

Thanks for everything. I did find out that her baby girl was born on Saturday but she still has a long ways to go. She cannot breathe without life support and can only take a bottle every 3rd feeding per day. So I'm hoping that all is well!

[Hamelyn]

That's good though. Life is littered with difficulties but at least there's life. *thumbs up* Just be supportive hun.

[soilsigh aingeal]

I hope everything goes well for the new baby.