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Merlinawakend777
June 14th, 2004, 10:31 PM
ok first off i am not sure the best place ot put this, so i figured this will work, but site gods, if ye feel ye need to move this thread, by all means do so.


ok this situation is very deep and has a long story behind it, but i am only going to giv some details about what is going on.
i care for my grandfather, i have since my grandmother passed away.
i have alot of personal debt right now,
my uncle, and aunt next door have power of atourney over my grandfather which they got they got the moment they proved that my grandfather had alzheimers, (one doctors opinion)
they have changed many things since they have had the power, like the phone number.
most of the rest of the family canot get ahld of us now if they need to for any reason, and since it is local only now, we can't get ahold of them either.
my aunt, cooks for my grandfather now, but she cooks the same thing everyday, sausage and buisquits, and hamburgers. and leaves two gklasses of milk, and a bucnch of cookies and cakes for him for the 8 to 10 hours she is gone per day.

i was able to move, at one time, and just live my life, and bne happy, but the window closed quickly, and it was for the best for right before i had a dream where i was talkming to my grandmopther and she told me thigs would be happening, and i needed to stay with my grandfather, and fight for him.

a few days later i find out from other family that my aunt and uncle are plannning on getting me removed from the home, and haveing my grandfather put into a nursing home. which my grandfather has been saying every since i was a we child, "i bought this place, to retire and die on"
my aunt and uncle intend on selling the property and keeping the money for themselves from what i have heard.
they have already coned my grandfather out of 3.5 acres of land. so this doesnt suprize me that they plan these things.

a while back, when i was thiking of movoing i sold my car to a girl, who payed me partialy, and then gave me the runaround.
i don't know where she or the car is and soposedly there has been several alterations made.
a couple of them illegal, since i still yhave the title.
so the police wont be able to find it.
but i am going to report it stolen anyway at this point.

I have been looking for work, but i live a good 10 miles from any place that is hireing and there is no public transportation here.
most of my friends are unable to help in anyway, same with most of my family, and the only ones who can help me live next door, and those family wont help anyone but themselves to all they can get.

my uncle came over the other night, and started to try and initiate the first part of his plan.
he did all he could to get me to fight him, verbal threats, and challenges, for over 20 minutes.
then i said i was going to report him, for threatinging my life, and he said "i never said such a thing"
then his wife who was standing by him every single time he has threatend to kill me sauid " i never heard him say that" i looked at them and called then &%$*ing lieing evil people.
this in turned made my drunkard uncle angry, and he ran up on the porch, and hit me in the head, and started strangeling me.
after about a minute of being strangled i fought back, and tried to remove him from my porch.
when i did, he yelled to his wife who saw the whole thing to call the police and report assalt.
so my uncle let go of me, and i went inside and called 911 to beat them to the draw, since my uncle did start the fight.
told the police what happend, and waited.
the cops came.
and preatuy much let hm go
and said if he gets arrested so do i.
because i fought back.
(i thought we have a right to defend ourselves in america)
so that was that.
my aunt and uncle have n food in thuis house that is for my grandfather, but they have his checkbook, and soposedly are paying his bills,.
but he isnt getting everything he wants.
aps have been called several times on them, but they have lied their way out of everything.
they soposedly are filling a eviction notice for me (my aunt and uncle are)
so i will have to leave preatuy soon,
since the provoking a fight didn't get me removed.

aps, has said that if my grandfather wants me living here, then no one can remove me, regardless of if i am employed or not.
also my uncle is plannnnig on moving a compleet stranger in here and letting her live her free of charge, and pay for her food as well.

i am lucky to have roman noodles and dear meat right now because a friend has helped me out. with what they could.


i need help in any form it can be given, i hate asking for help, i could just pack my bags, and move to variopus places, but i don't want to abandon my grandfather, when he isnt being taken care of right by my aunt and uncle./
because i know the moment i am no longer here, my aunt and uncle are going to get everything they can, and abandon him to place that would kill him in less then a coulple of weeks.

but i can't abandon my grandfather in his time of need, no matter how much i am suffering.

i need a way o make money
but again it is too far to walk to get a job, and most of my friends dont live close ebnough to give me a ride to work.

so i need a car, and a little bit of cash top help me back on my feet.


so this is basicaly a request, to all of the members hear, if you can help in anyway please...
prayers, spells, energy, donations, a car loan, a job
anything
please
help me.


thanks\

Edited by mol: No direct solicitation is allowed on Mysticwicks. Please direct folks to a website with valid information about your fundraiser, etc. Thanks!

ps, if anyone donates money or something of that mannnor, i will se what i can do about sending you some of my art, so at least you get somehing out of it, even though i am not van goh or anything....

blessings with love and light...

Hope
June 14th, 2004, 10:39 PM
i am sorry for your struggles -- perhaps it would be best if you worked with the local aps

love
hope

asamananara
June 14th, 2004, 10:50 PM
This is a difficult place for you to be in, and I wish that
I could extend something more than prayers. However, I am as
poor as dirt, and only hope is free. May the gods smile upon
you, and your grandfather.

Merlinawakend777
June 14th, 2004, 11:32 PM
thank you so much for your hopes and prayers, and i compleetly understand being dirt poor.
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so returned hopes and prayers are sent.

Nighthawk
June 15th, 2004, 10:45 AM
Man.. really bad situation. I will do what I can.. please give me a couple of weeks...

Lady Jade
June 15th, 2004, 11:09 AM
I too was called to care for my Grandfather after my Gram's passing. It has been very difficult, yet rewarding. Your situation is harder..how old are you? If you are willing to act upon your relatives, then you can try this:

In Ohio there are MANY legal programs out there for the elderly. Get someone involved and they will look at they money being spent out of your Grandfather's account, how he is being cared for, who he wants to care for him. Legal Aid Society is a good place to start. Local phone calls to local programs will likely find you someone to listen. Even though he may have Altzheimers (sp), he does have some clarity each day. He likely has the ability to make clear choices early in the morning. Is he on medicare or some insurance? Seek a second opinion, you don't need a power of attorney for a doctor's visit. Is he even being given medication for the condition?

There are many factors to consider. Are you willing to go head to head with your Aunt and Uncle? Can you go the distance and get them removed as Power of Attorney then step up to the plate to care for him?

I was the hardest decision I ever made, we sold our home to take care of him. We will not get the house or anything when he dies, only the satisfaction of gifting him with his wish to be at home.

Myself, it's my mother who has Power of Attorney. She moved in after Gramps had a stroke, Grams was already gone. The agreement was he would give her his 40 acre farm in exchange for care for the remainder of his years, and if possible he wanted to die at home. She moved in, the real estate papers were signed about 3 months before she moved out and sent Grandpa away to live with his son 3 hours away. During the time they lived here, they employed a lady for 800$ a month to come in M-F 9-5 , despite the fact my mom's husband is retired and was not working. In addition, they were rarely home and had people in on the weekends, too. No doubt he was getting quality care, but he was very unhappy. He did not get to choose his own worker and he did not like her, she got along with my mom and husband too well. Even though his physical needs were being met, he was being mentally abused by my mom's husband, being called names and generally disrespected, he is after all almost 88 years old and deserved some respect and courtesy.

It has been 1.5 years now since we moved here. There is a constant mental battle raging just under the surface between my mother and myself. She wants us to pay bills in addition to caring for him. We just do what Grandpa says, he is definately still in great mental condition, if he says its ok, then that's what we do. He dislikes both his kids now, as he sees they view him as an imposition in his old age.

Boy this post got out of hand...I hope you make the right choice for you and your Grandfather. Pm me if you need to talk about it. Yes, it is worth it.

WinterTree
June 15th, 2004, 11:23 AM
I am so sorry, I would send you money but my parents would find out about it and shoot me. But you are definately in my thoughts and I'll be praying hard for you. I'm so sorry all these things are happening to you.

Pesha
June 15th, 2004, 11:27 AM
Go to Adult Protective Servixes first off and report your relatives. Then go to your states dept. of Vocational rehab and see if they can get you into a programme so you can learn, earn and take care of your grandfather. Energies of protection to you both.

BB
DS.

Merlinawakend777
June 15th, 2004, 02:28 PM
thanks everyone.

I will look into the ideas, you all have given me.

I have a pay pal account at the aol email address now, thanks to someone who sent me a little bit of money! ( i would mention the name but i don't think they would want to bre acknolwedged publicly.
but i thank them never the less.
and tanks to everyone regardless of the help you have given
or that will come because of you.
may it be returned 10 fold

Merlinawakend777
June 19th, 2004, 11:47 PM
thank you for all those who have helped, in what evr way that you have. you know who you are.

looks like i have a new goal, since i have only raised 30 dollars, i am going to look into buying a bycycle, town is over 10 miles from me, but a byke is better then walking in this texas heat.

once again thanks very much for you help and prayers,.

blessed be

OriginalWacky
June 20th, 2004, 09:15 PM
thank you for all those who have helped, in what evr way that you have. you know who you are.

looks like i have a new goal, since i have only raised 30 dollars, i am going to look into buying a bycycle, town is over 10 miles from me, but a byke is better then walking in this texas heat.

once again thanks very much for you help and prayers,.

blessed be
I so wish I could do more, but I'm pretty limited right now, and still paying up back child support on top of it. My internet isn't even mine, it's what we use for work, but at least I have it.

My best to you and your grandfather.

HorseCrow
June 21st, 2004, 04:15 AM
:hugz: