unsettling dream

[ckynes1968]

On Sat. night I had a disturbing dream that effected me that I didn't want to even sleep last night.

In my dream, I am talking with my mother on the phone. She is babbling on about stuff like she normally does and then she says..."and the funeral is tomorrow and everything is kinda busy." and I ask "whose funeral?" and she says "oh, didn't I tell you? Ryan killed himself. His mother found him hanging out in the pine trees by the driveway" (this is one of my 12 year old nephews) Anyway, I hang up and drive the 5 hours to get to the funeral and my sister (the boys mother) is just so weird - and says something like "oh well - everyone dies sometime."

What would a dream like this mean?

[TornadoAli]

Well death tends to be change. When you think of your nephew, what's the first thing that comes to mind? What does he remind you of? Maybe that part of yourself has died, and your sister is consoling you for growing up?

[ckynes1968]

I'm not really close to any of my nieces or nephews or my sister. The only connection I can think of is my best friends daughter. She is in the same grade and school as my nephew. My friend is having all sorts of problems with her as she has been cutting herself and also keeps turning my friend in for child abuse. (the girl has been on different types of medicines and they haven't helped her yet) My friend's mother committed suicide about two years ago (on dec 29th) and a child in Rachel and Ryan's grade killed himself earlier this year. I'm assuming that the suicide of that other child and knowing about my friend's mother and that my friend's daughter has been cutting herself - is my subconscious puttiing those together and changing it to my nephew? (sorry for rambling)

[KellyP]

is my subconscious puttiing those together and changing it to my nephew? (sorry for rambling)
Oh, very good ckynes! Reflect on that specific angle a bit more. With the 29th coming up, it is very possible that a memory of those suicides is troubling you but not really making it to the level of your waking thoughts. Your dream of the suicide may be the thoughts of those other events bubbling into your mind and the reaction of your sister (aka everyone dies some time) is your rational mind trying to help you address those subconscious concerns.

If I could make a suggestion: Spend just a few minutes in the next day or so really thinking of those suicides and troubles your friends may be experiencing. Maybe dedicate some energy talking with the friend or focusing thoughts on the troubled youngster. By making an effort to bring the issues into your thoughts and acting on them in some way you may well feel a little bit of weight lifting.

I hope this helps. Definitely let us know if something new arises!

Happy dreams.

Kelly
geek druid wannabe