Aunt was beaten by Husband

[dragenfly]

Please send enery fast and as much as poss. Last night my Aunt's Husband got drunk again and beat her again. He kept hitting and hitting her, she broke free and retrieved a gun she had stashed away in the house after her last beating. She shot him! She is now being processed at the twin towers in L.A. for felony possesion of a firearm. I am not condoning violence in any way but why is she in jail? That bastard want charged with anything and the Sheriff Dept. Let just let him go free. What is going here???? Please send her energy, our family is pulling together to post her bail, at least now after 10 years of silence and 10 years of pushing us away she is going to accept our help. Now that its almost too late to do anything. :bangyourh

[Hope]

(((hugs))) good thoughts all around -- may i suggest --- please also call the domestic violence hotline in your area -- and ask for their help

you DO NOT have to be the abused person in order to call


love
hope

[meegan]

Please send enery fast and as much as poss. Last night my Aunt's Husband got drunk again and beat her again. He kept hitting and hitting her, she broke free and retrieved a gun she had stashed away in the house after her last beating. She shot him! She is now being processed at the twin towers in L.A. for felony possesion of a firearm. I am not condoning violence in any way but why is she in jail? That bastard want charged with anything and the Sheriff Dept. Let just let him go free. What is going here???? Please send her energy, our family is pulling together to post her bail, at least now after 10 years of silence and 10 years of pushing us away she is going to accept our help. Now that its almost too late to do anything. :bangyourh



PLEASE PLEASE don't think it's almost too late to do anything--and PLEASE PLEASE don't be upset with her. I don't know if you are, but it seems like you are.
I can understand the frustration, but there are SO many reasons abused women don't say to their own families what's going on, and SO many reasons they stay. I don't know your Aunt's specific situation, but I can tell you a few reasons why women like her are quiet & they stay:
-Fear of making him mad, if he finds out she said anything, maybe causing another beating.
-Fear of leaving him----men like him often tell the women if they try to leave, he will kill them, or she'll never see the children again, or he'll kill the children. They hold knives to the throat, and so many other horrible things to emphasize what they say.(it's a very real fear--women who leave or try to leave have a VERY much (%?) higher chance of being killed by him)
-If someone tells you horrible things for a long time, you tend to believe them. Women can be literally brainwashed to feel they'll never find anyone else, they'll never survive on their own, because it's been drilled into them for years.
-Hoping that if she does things right, he'll be okay, and things will work out. He often perpetuates that belief by being really nice, sometimes for a long time, but it ends up in another beating sooner or later.
-Humiliation that they have found themselves in this situation. Fear that everyone they know will think they're so stupid for being with a man like that. They stay because if they leave, everyone will find out.

I think your Aunt has been under tremendous fear and stress for all those years, and I am so glad your family still stands behind her. That's the best thing. Generally, women in those situations need to leave when they are ready, which is extremely frustrating to those who love her. But the best thing really is to just be there for her when she's ready, and not to be upset with her for not coming to you sooner. (or at least don't act upset with her. this is her turning point, a very frightening time. she needs your support now most of all.)

It's not too late--for her, it can be a new beginning!

Please let us know how things go. :hugz:

[~*Ginger*~]

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[Teresa]

Hugs Dressing a candle for You Aunt ! May things get sorted out soon! I am a survivor of Domestic Violence. It takes different things for different people to finally break free,or cry for help.Be supportive of You Aunt if You can she needs lots of caring people there for her now.

[audi]

*hugs*

[Storm Moon]

:huddle:

[dragenfly]

Well we posted bail a felony for discharging a firearm is a huge bail amount too. Remind me to never shoot anyone. David (her bastard husband) was finally arrested he has several DUI's becasue he is a drunk so breaking his probation got him 18 months in county. We have talked her into selling the house while he is locked up and using the money to purchase realestate in my dad's name so he cant find her. She is going to get a dissolution of her marriage and hopefully we can figure out a way to help her start over. I am so overwhelmed with this mess I still dont understand what she is feeling or what she has been going through for 20+ years but Your support has helped me. We are hoping that because of his record the Dist. Att. office will drop the charges against her. The gun it seems was his so thats another violation of parole for him. Thank you guys so much for your energies I always know there are people here that can help me feel better adn that is a wonderful feeling.
THANK YOU!!!

[WynnJera]

Energy love and healing on the way for your family :hugz:

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[Nighthawk]

Wow.. this one is tough. And you see where striking back does little good. I am so so sorry this is happening. It really IS his problem, not hers. The innocent often pay.

[dragenfly]

Yeah fighting back just seems to have made it worse how miserable a situation. To make it worse she got home after bailing her out and she called the Sheriff Dept. and dropped the charges. She refuses to leave the house and that jackhole is back there. Im so scared for her. Does anyone know any REALLY GOOD binding's?

[Sahariel]

I wish there was some other way other than sending energy, as I am just beggining and don't know any good bindings. I will pray for her safety though, and for the stregnth for your family to continue to help *huggles and snuggles*

[Jenne]

That's just bad all around. The woman is destroying herself in this cycle of abuse... someone is violently hurt, other than herself, and she still can't get out of it. I'm not really sure what to say and do other than your support is needed. She needs someone there in case she comes back out of that hellhole she's in.

I would definitely call the domestic abuse hotline and get some tips on how to handle her. And get her a good lawyer, someone who can tell her the truth about her situation legally. I feel for her, and hurt for her--being abused by someone you love is so hard to break away from.

Good luck, to all of you. I'll keep you all in my prayers.

[Teresa]

Dressing a candle for her.Look up protection spells first.Start there for her sake. I am sorry to hear she dropped the charges.I hate to say this but maybe the State will pick up and make them stick.What helped me the most in the situation I was in was that the State made the charges and there was nothing I could do to have them dropped.I thank the Higher Powers for interviening on my behalf.I would have probably been so scared I would have dropped them too after 17 years of mental abuse along with the violence.It is a slow brain washing process. Please try to be understanding.Only thru time will she be able to be deprogrammed from all that this Man has said to her and made her believe. Counseling helps and family love and support helps.Look at protection spells first, then reflect, use binding as a last resource.BB Sending All the energies I can because I have been there and I understand! :hugz:

[moria636]

sending energys and preying that higher powers will get her out of this.... she won't do it on her own... its scary for her I know... thats why I hope she can get him rid of get a restraining order and get on her own so she can be back to herself.... shes in my prayers and I will look up other things that could be done.... I don't know any good bindings for this...and honestly I think this is beyond a binding spell... it would'nt hurt... but not alot of help...

[farm girl]

:rubhead: I'm sorry!

I really hope your aunt can get out of this and start over. May she find comfort and peace.

[dragenfly]

Thank you all so much for your support. I have looked into some hotlines in my area. Today I got a glimpse of my Aunts personal HELL. I overheard my mom telling my grandfather that my just found out that one day that pig called my aunt and said his car broke down so she left to go and get him. She didnt find him anywhere. He lied she came home and he was beating my grandmother who was staying with them and he turned to my aunt and said this is what I can do if you F with me. I dont know why they didnt tell anyone I dont know why she let that happen to my grams or why my grams let it happen. I am so torn with anger and fear and just disgust. I dont know what to do with that info. I have a knot in my throat and my stomach aches thinking about it. Thank you all for your support I didnt think that I would feel this way its tormenting me all the horrible pictures that are coming to me its very sickening!!!!!